Blogging Insights NF — # 45

Dr. Tanya has given us a quote to ponder….

” Writing, to me, is simply thinking through my fingers.”

— Isaac Asimov.

I love this quote, it is the first time I have seen it. I wish I could magically write when I wanted to just by thinking it and using my hands in the air. I often think of things that I want to write, or first lines, new phrases, great ideas, but then I don’t have a writing utensil and by the time I think of where to get that the thought is either gone or not as vivid.

In a less literal sense I think that writing is exactly that – writing down your thoughts. I have often heard people wonder how horror/thriller writers get their ideas. I think this is the best way to express that answer.

Blogging Insights — New Format # 32 — The Internet

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“The Internet destroyed most of the barriers to publication. The cost of being a publisher dropped to almost zero with two interesting immediate results: anybody can publish, and more importantly, you can publish whatever you want.”

(Dick Costolo)

What do you think?

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I guess I agree and disagree.
I think that the internet opened barriers to publication because now you can find publishers who are looking for specific things.
On the other hand, people don’t need to go buy books to have things to read. If you find something you want to read there is a good chance you can find it somewhere free to download on the computer. I do listen to audiobooks but I believe most come in a book format. Some that are published “just for audible” may not be.
I have four children’s books that were published. I could not afford to renew the contract with the publisher I was using. I would love to get picked up by a big publisher but the chances are so slim. It is not very encouraging as a writer.

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Blogging Insights — New Format # Focus on Readers

What kind of content is great for readers? Won’t that depend on who the readers are? Unless you are posting with a particular demographic in mind, how can you predict what kind of topics will appeal to people who visit your blog?

I have mentioned in many of my posts that I wanted to start blogging after losing my husband. I have also told readers that my sister didn’t think people wanted to read about “my dead husband”. But that was not my intention even then. I think part of it was looking for the ability to “talk” to people, to find a community I fit in with. After losing my son I joined a support group and met a few other mothers who had lost children but I didn’t feel like I fit in there. The support group was great but it was really hard to think about all those other children who have died and also it felt off. I liked the group but I didn’t feel like it was going to be a long-term connection, and it wasn’t. Actually, COVID came and the groups stopped and you all know the rest of that…

I have found that my followers and other readers like some variety of writing. Some people like to read poetry, others like photos, sort of how I am. Many of the bloggers I follow don’t have a set theme per say, but rather they fit in with what the “community” is up to.

The one thing I do believe is that my honesty and genuine “personality” that comes out in my blog posts are what keep my site interesting. Sometimes it is sad, other times silly…nothing set in stone. I am not blogging to attract anyone per say. I just like talking to people and sharing in the activities of others. I like reading about what other people are doing and where they go. I love seeing pictures of the world, as I want to travel more than anything. I don’t base my writing on how many people liked the previous post…I just post!

Blogging Insights — New Format # 29 — Spam

This week Tanya has asked our opinion of this quote;


Successful people don’t spam.” — Adrienne Smith

I would never spam someone on purpose.
When I first started blogging someone told me I should include the ads in my blog because I would make money every time someone clicked on the ads. This to me was almost like spamming. It took away from everything I wanted to convey in my writing.

When I started the fundraiser for the scholarship in my son’s name (to honor his legacy) I did sort of “spam” a bit but it was only a link to the fundraiser and to people on my list on LinkedIn. Even if someone clicked on it there was no gimmick nor did it do anything bad to your computer. I guess it depends on what you consider spam. I did send out individual messages to everyone and actually reached my max one day, but it was for a good cause. Is that still spam?

Blogging Insights — New Format # 28

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“The first thing you need to decide when you build your blog is what you want to accomplish with it, and what it can do if successful.”

(Ron Dawson)

Many of the people who have been reading my blog since I started two years ago know that when I started my blog my sister had told me that “no one wanted to hear me cry about my dead husband”. That wasn’t why I wanted to start a blog. I think I just wanted the social interaction without the face to face stuff. I think I needed a place to talk to people about what I was going through without actually finding people and meeting up with them. Once I started blogging I realized it was so much more than what I thought.

Now, once in a while I do an update of myself, which I call From my desk, but not that often unless I have something I feel I need to speak about.

I love the challenges and all the writing. I guess all blogs are different and I was lucky to find one that is full of writers and other creative people. That is why I have stayed here. I think that is partly what a blog is supposed to do, help form some sort of community. The people I have blogging relationships with have things in common with me and I enjoy meeting up with these people on a pretty daily basis. I hope that someday, when traveling is safe and more affordable, I might be able to visit some of the people I have met.

So…in response to the quote: I don’t think it is completely necessary as long as you don’t have specific expectations. If you set expectations then you will probably be discouraged because I think the blogging community find each one of us, not vice versa.

Blogging Insights — New Format # 27

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This week she wants to know what we think of this…

” Blogging, I love you no matter how out of fashion you are. “

I just surpassed 2000 followers and I don’t care if blogging is out of fashion or not! I love it here and will continue to blog until the day that I don’t want to anymore. I have met some of the nicest people and now that I don’t work outside of the house and with COVID, it is nice to have interactions with people every day. Sometimes I wish I knew more about the people I “talk to” everyday but then again it leaves it that I see the one side of them that we have in common and maybe that is all I am meant to see.

I think I have mentioned before that the first time I told my sister I wanted to blog she pretty much laughed at me. She said “who wants to read about you crying that your husband died?”. Obviously, this was right after Bob had passed away and I was feeling alone. I didn’t ever plan on my blog being a place to come cry about my dead husband, but it has affected my life and so it affects what I write. I have had a lot of positive support from people who have gotten to know me. If there are people who want to judge me then I suppose they just never come back to read what I have to say. No one is hurt either way.

So, in conclusion, blogging may be out of style but so were high-waisted jeans and the awful things are back! I’m staying put for a while. I find myself peaceful and at home here.

Blogging Insights – New Format # 24

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You’ve got a new story to write and it looks nothing like your past.”

This is the first Monday of the New Year, the first “work day” of the New Year, and my first Monday in my new house of the New Year! A lot of firsts. I guess that is going to be my view of things this year…they are all firsts. If you read my posts, I either lost my wallet or it was taken. If I were to focus on this as the way my new year is going to go I am doomed. Of course, that is what I am thinking, but I am going to consciously try to remain positive. Every day is a new day! I am hopeful that each new day will be a little better than the day before.

Happy Monday!

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” Did you know that 1980 and 2021 are as far apart as 1980 and 1939 ? “

I found the above quote on WhatsApp and don’t know what source to credit.

Anyone with slightly greater mental math skills than mine would know this already.

Those of us who were at school in 1980 used to feel that 1939 and World War II were almost prehistoric. Today I feel that my school days were prehistoric.


Funny, but I always considered myself growing up in the 80’s because that is what I remember when thinking back to being a kid. In actuality I grew up in the 70’s. I don’t know why I find this so weird or why I can’t get it straight in my mind. I think if I had to choose I would still have chosen to grow up in the 70’s. The 80’s were so…like…oh my God!…like…cliche…like….like, you know?

Blogging Insights — New Format # 2

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secret of writing

Here is the secret of writing : there is no secret. — Ralph Fletcher

There has to be some secret to it! I have been told I am a good writer but my mind goes blank. I would love to write more stories but I get so… I don’t know…I just can’t think of things to write about that go anywhere….