Melanie is hosting Truthful Tuesday. Unlike Fibbing Friday, today we tell the truth! Find the questions on her site: https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.wordpress.com/2022/03/29/truthful-tuesday-3-29-2022/
The questions today are:
Should people be honest and just say no when asked to do something they either don’t want to do or are uncomfortable about doing? For me it depends on what it is and who is asking. If it is something I am uncomfortable doing I have an easier time saying no. If it is something I don’t want to do then I question whether my motives are worth telling someone no. I wish people would say no to me if they don’t want to do something. I hate seeing that “look” like they can’t believe they are “having” to help.
Funny aside: My son and I suppose my daughter too, used to always start a question with “Do you want to…” My son one time asked, “Do you want to loan me $5000 for a new bike?” I said no. Apparently, they got this from me because I say it too. For example, I might say, “David, do you want to let the dog out?” and he will say, “Are you asking me to do it or asking me if I want to?” I suppose there is a difference but I always say that I don’t want him to do it if he really doesn’t want to. I guess this is how I brought up my kids. My son isn’t with me anymore and my daughter lives far away, so I don’t hear it anymore, except when I ask the questions myself.
Why aren’t more people apt to tell the truth and save everyone involved a lot of time and aggravation? I think for many people it is just easier to say yes and suffer for a short time than to say no and disappoint the person asking for help. I get this. The one thing I don’t get is when someone says yes, they will help, and then they just avoid you until they know the time has passed. People disappear when they don’t want to help. That is fine, but please don’t say you will help and then expect me to hunt you down!
How comfortable are you with asking for help when the favor is something that will take a lot more time and work (and money with the gas price situation right now) than your relationship with the other party might warrant? I think it would depend on the favor. If it something that does not really need to be done then I wouldn’t ask. If it was something like a ride to a doctor or picking someone up, I have no problem asking for help. I learned many years ago, with a great team of teachers I worked with, that it is so much better to ask for help than to suffer alone.