Written to, and for, a very good friend. I love you.
How do you say goodbye?
Do you think about the after?
Do you talk about the past?
How do you say goodbye?
Do you think about what you still need to do?
Do you talk to people who you haven’t talked to in years?
How do you say goodbye?
Do you think of your loved ones?
Do you talk to those closest to you?
How do you say goodbye?
Do you try to do as much as possible?
Do you talk about the things you wish you’d done?
How do you say goodbye?
Do you think of the fun things?
Do you talk about all the things you’ve done?
How do you say goodbye?
Do you think of all you’ve been through?
Do you talk about your struggles?
How do you say goodbye?
Do you laugh at the memories?
Do you cry at the undone?
How do you say goodbye?
Do you promise to always be there?
Do you promise to always remember?
How do you say goodbye?
I really wish someone would tell me.
©2020 CBialczak Poetry
Stine Writing 
Sorry for your loss.
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Thanks Jim. The only problem is its not a loss yet. I literally need to know what to do to say goodbye.
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why do you say goodbye?
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Awwww, I do not know if there is an answer to that one 😢
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Maybe just to let my friends know I will be there to comfort her family that is still here.
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Sometimes what we need is just the presence of those we love. Hugs, prayers and peace for you.
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Such an evocative and poignant poem
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Thank you
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You’re welcome 😉
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This is a sad situation. But I think you answered your own question. You do all the things you wrote about! And if possible you just be present….
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That is what I am hoping to convey, that I am there for her.
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So sorry! A hard thing to do! Just be real with them, don’t think about the perfect thing to say ,just speak from the heart.
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Thank you. I am taking every bit of advice that I receive because it is just so hard.
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❤🙏
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It sure did made me think!
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Every time I start to think I start to fall apart. It seems like as you get older the loss becomes more often. Of all losses, losing my son has been the most difficult to deal with.
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I can never predict what you are going through right now. But I wish to. That’s true… When you start to think, you naturally tend to think of all the scratches in your life.
But there’s another way.. that I can advice you (I ain’t that good in giving advices but this one… This has helped me a lot!)
Never THINK about anything.. just SPEAK TO YOURSELF. People say that speaking to oneself indicates “being mad”.. but I don’t agree
Listen to your inner voice. Ask the person inside you, who constantly reminds you of your tragic life, to shut up. You’ve got better things to handle.
Remember Ma’am, what we once lost is lost forever.. but if we come back to our senses at the right time, we will not lose any other person.
Just Live! Breathe! 😃🤩
We can control the muscles around our mouth… Let’s keep a smile ready at anytime!
Your blog is just amazing!
It keeps me engaged! 🤩🤩
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Thank you for stopping by and for the great advice. It is true that we can get wrapped up in the negative if we allow ourselves to.
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Right again! You are always welcome! 😊🤩
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Stine Writting,Wow,losing a child has got to be the tougheest thing a Parent can do,children are supposet to be laying their parentys to rst not the other way around.but so many peopl have done just that,just ask any Gold Star Parent.
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Remember a time when you and she/he had a wonderful moment together.
Recall a time that you loved and she/he didn’t know exactly how much you loved that time.
Remind them of something funny or even outrageous that happened when you were together one time. Something which made you, and now makes your heart, laugh
Recall a moment of embarrassment – maybe you laughed so much milk came down your nose. Or that you were SO desperate for the loo that you almost …. eeek!
But most of all … tell her/him how much you have enjoyed your relationship and that the memories will live on forever in your heart.
And then …. tell them you love them. And … how you love them. Why you love them. And how that love will never diminish.
I’m so saddened to hear of this special relationship reaching the point of it’s human existence. Your soul won’t ever forget. The pain will take a while to ease, but your soul will carry the memories forever.
Sending you very much love ~ Cobs. x
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Yes Indeed,one of my best friends did just that by reminding me of the all night bowling trips we all took( My Friend my Self and My Lady),and the other things we did while we were going together.all I gotta do is look in my heart where all the fun things we did reside.
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Sorry for your loss💔
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Not a loss yet…But thank you. I am so torn knowing that I may be losing a good friend soon.
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Sorry about that ,Thanks as well .Stay blessed 🍂
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Goodbye is what you say after. Now is for I love yous. -hugs-
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Thank you…You are exactly right and it is something like that which needs to be remembered during so much sorrow. Again, thank you.
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-hugs- Stay strong.
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend. My prayers for you!
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I hate saying goodbyes. I try to pretend it’s not happening, it’s temporary and that we will meet again, I usually say see you soon. Parting hurts. 🥺❤
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When my late husband was being wheeled out for surgery, when he passed away, I said goodbye and the nurse said, no goodbyes, just see you later. It was hard when I got the call. It is hard no matter how it is handled, I think.
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Yes. I’m so sorry. It’s never easy. Hugs ❤
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the Hard Part is you never really say Goodby to your loved one,I Believe that you carry them in your heart forever,even after they are laid to rest in their Grave. (That’s My Story and I’m Sticking to it!)
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