Share Your World 5-18-2020

Welcome to Share Your World!

Melanie will post four or five different questions each week for you to answer.  There are two ways which you can participate. https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.com/2020/05/18/share-your-world-5-18-2020/

  1. Create a Share Your World post.  Then post the link to that blog post or leave your answers in the comments box of her blog.
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This weeks questions

Questions:

What’s something you really resent paying for? Does it have to be just one? For a recent purchase I resent that I paid for the Lucy Tool. It is not what they advertise. For a past purchase I would say the cosmetic surgery I had. It was so not worth it, horrible then, fine now, but unnecessary!

 What was the most unsettling film you’ve seen? The Experiment starring Forest Whitaker https://youtu.be/oi22xiNAfD0 and then Saw https://youtu.be/S-1QgOMQ-ls

Do you judge people?  Yes but I keep it to myself until I know for sure.

Finish this sentence:  “Back in my day, we…”? Back in the day, we used to play outside all day, every day and if we were thirsty someone always had a garden hose! We never went in other kids’ homes unless some strange emergency, and we didn’t snack like kids do today. If we were hungry we would eat those clover flowers and I don’t know what else, but there were no snacks!


Gratitude

Please feel free to share an uplifting photo, thought or meme to show your own gratitude.   We can all use some good vibes!  

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I am grateful for David who helped me clear my flowerbeds of leaves, without me asking, because that was the first time (at least that I can remember) that I had help doing it. I remember Bob helping a few times after I pleaded for help! Lol! Most of the time I never really asked for help, I just did it by myself. This year, David did it and told me he did it after he was already done! Woo Hoo!!!!

I am also grateful for my mail lady – Summer – because I order almost everything and she puts everything neatly on my deck, year round. I don’t know her last name. I left her a gift card about two weeks ago and I haven’t seen her since. I hope she got it. Otherwise someone is enjoying Dunkin’ instead of her!

Legacy: Fowc with Fandango

For: https://fivedotoh.com/2020/05/14/fowc-with-fandango-legacy/

After my son passed away I was devastated. I had just (13 months prior) lost my husband now my son! The mourning process has been so much different than it was for Bob. It seems to be much more painful and I sometimes don’t know how I will ever feel better. July will be one year since he passed.

One of the things I learned as I watched a great webinar on grieving https://youtu.be/d5lYBsuqkxI was that instead of being so sad about his death, to think about the legacy I want to leave for him. It seems like this would be obvious or what you would do anyhow but when you think about it, what do you want people to remember about the loved one that died.

For Joey, he was so smart. He got a perfect score of 800 on Math SATs. Still in high school he took a college level Differentials math class and the professor said she learned things from him! No one could ever believe how smart he was. He was funny too. He had his issues and went through some extremely tough times as an adolescent but he had just graduated high school and I saw a whole new world opening up for him.

After Bob, my husband/his dad, died, Joey insisted on buying a motorcycle. He and Bob had talked about it often as Bob used to ride. I was scared to death and at the time didn’t know what I would do financially, so I told him if he was going to buy it he would have to save and do all the work on his own. Well, he saved $8000 in cash, got his motorcycle license, took the appropriate class and bought the motorcycle. He loved that bike.

He died on that bike.

My heart will never be the same.

The legacy I want to leave is how brilliant he was and how the world is now going to miss out of someone that would’ve changed our world. Someday, once all this corona stuff is over I want to try and start a scholarship at his magnet high school, under his name. That will be very fulfilling.

Share Your World 5-11-2020

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Written for Melanie: https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.com/2020/05/11/share-your-world-5-11-2020/

Questions:

  • I asked this on an award thingie I was nominated for, and I got such interesting responses, I thought I’d ask it on Share Your World too:  Do you have a favorite kind of tree? White Birch. I don’t really know why, I just love the way the bark has the black hash marks.
  • What bridges are you happy you burned? My college group of friends. They held so many grudges and their perceptions were so unlike mine that it became toxic. I used to cry about why this one won’t talk to me, or that one will. One of the group, who was like my best friend, got pregnant shortly after I had my second child. I crocheted a blanket and sent the gift to the shower. At the time Bob and I were both working full time and still struggling to pay bills, etc. I didn’t go to the baby shower because I would have had to take a shift off of work, I waitressed at the time. About a year later I saw this friend. I asked her what she had, she said a boy. I asked if she liked the blanket I made. She said she never even opened the box, it was up in the closet, because she was mad at me for not going to her baby shower.
  • Would you sacrifice yourself (die) for a stranger? Honestly, I don’t know. I mean if it was like going to work at a hospital where patients have COVID-19 then yes. If it was for the life of a child I think that would be a yes. But in the scheme of things who really knows? I think years ago it would have been more of a definite yes but now that my daughter has lost her father and her brother, I would be so afraid of leaving her with no-one.
  • How have your priorities changed since the C-19 virus took over? Not so much my priorities but my time management has. I realize also that I don’t need to do all the running around, shopping for things I don’t need.

Gratitude Section:

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I am grateful for: David and my daughter, my fairly healthy body, and the few friends who show me that they care about me just as much as I care about them.