Blogging Insights NF # 53


“A blog is a message in a bottle, both in purpose and likely readership.” Robert Breault

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I don’t agree that it is “a message in a bottle” in purpose, but possibly in readership.
To me, a message in a bottle is meant to send some secret or valuable piece of information to someone unknown for the pure purpose of sharing a secret that would otherwise disappear in time. Blogging is meant to be a place to share information and writing that can be timeless and for anyone to enjoy, not hope to benefit through.
Readership though is less broad as blogs begin to narrow down to smaller groups unless you are consciously interacting with people outside your “circle”. I have always mentioned that no one I know really reads my blog, outside of the blogging world. I used to have my posts go to Facebook and I know a few people would read things there but there were other issues so I stopped having them go there. My posts go to LinkedIn, I think, or they used to, but I never got outside responses.
For me, blogging is a place for me to practice what I love and get feedback. It is a place to find new ways of doing things and of interacting with others. There are a few blogging friends that I consider friends now because there has been so much interaction but I often wonder what would happen if I stopped blogging. We don’t exchange real personal information or demographics so once I’m gone I guess no one can even find me.

Blogging Insights NF #46 Blogging VS Social Media ?

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Over the past two years now, I think it’s been two years, my blogging has evolved from simply “trying to write stuff” to actually wanting to improve my writing not for any other reason than I like to see how much better I do each time, well, you all know what I mean! Anyhow, quite often my posts will also go to Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn. They were for a long time, then they weren’t, now they might be again?!?!?! So, what do I think about this?

The only reason I reconnected my blogging to Facebook and LinkedIn again was to honor my son’s memory by posting the anniversary of his leaving. This was only last week. I wanted people to be able to remember him and think about him. I’m not sure if I am expressing it right, but this is sort of the gist of it.
I did cut off the social media connections after one of my sisters gave me shit last year three days before David and I got married. Another long story.

Overall, I sort of hate social media. I have always gotten hooked and then sucked down a depressive rabbit hole. I used to get depressed because of all the people who stopped calling or talking to me. I got depressed because of all the changes that had happened in my life that I hadn’t totally ironed out yet. Then I got depressed when I suffered loss after loss and I would see all my friends still so happy while I was so sad. Most recently I decided to check back in and see what was new. I saw a picture of an old friend with her son, also named Joe. He was older now, probably around 18 years old. I couldn’t handle seeing it. It just made me so sad that she has her Joe but I don’t have mine. So now again…I am done with social media. I prefer the companionship and friendships I have developed here on WP. I feel like it is a supportive community but not one that has to show off, or something like that.

5 Things You Don’t Buy Anymore

Dr. Tanya wants to know 5 things for

  1. Feminine Products – I don’t think that needs any explaining
  2. Cigarettes – I still vape but that is nicotine and a few other harmful chemicals rather than nicotine, tobacco, and many other carcinogens
  3. Cow’s Milk – I am happy with Almond milk and hate to think of all the mama-cows who have to go on milking day after dreaded day.
  4. Heating Oil – living in the south has some benefits!
  5. Camera Film – I can’t even imagine how much I spent on film and then developing the film, especially when my kids were little. I have since downloaded most of the albums but need a new scanner to do the rest. I was lugging around bins and bins of photo albums from one home to the next. Now everything is digital!

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 Today I ask you to list five of your favourites.

I have so many “favorites” that come and go. So, for this list I will list my 5 favorite at this time in my life (that I can think of!):





Blogging Insights — New Format # 32 — The Internet

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“The Internet destroyed most of the barriers to publication. The cost of being a publisher dropped to almost zero with two interesting immediate results: anybody can publish, and more importantly, you can publish whatever you want.”

(Dick Costolo)

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I guess I agree and disagree.
I think that the internet opened barriers to publication because now you can find publishers who are looking for specific things.
On the other hand, people don’t need to go buy books to have things to read. If you find something you want to read there is a good chance you can find it somewhere free to download on the computer. I do listen to audiobooks but I believe most come in a book format. Some that are published “just for audible” may not be.
I have four children’s books that were published. I could not afford to renew the contract with the publisher I was using. I would love to get picked up by a big publisher but the chances are so slim. It is not very encouraging as a writer.

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Five For Tuesday – Books You Just Can’t Put Down – 2-22-2022

Since I’ve been listening to Audiobooks lately I will list my “books”, however they are digital. These are also books that I have read in the past few years. I’m sure I could look back and find so many others.

  1. Behind the Blue Elevator:
Behind the Blue Elevator

2. The Institute:

The Institute

3. The Butterfly Garden

The Butterfly Garden (The Collector, #1)

4. The Marriage Pact:

The Marriage Pact

5. The Patience of a Dead Man:

The Patience of a Dead Man by Michael        Clark

Blogging Insights

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Blogging Insights — New Format # Focus on Readers

What kind of content is great for readers? Won’t that depend on who the readers are? Unless you are posting with a particular demographic in mind, how can you predict what kind of topics will appeal to people who visit your blog?

I have mentioned in many of my posts that I wanted to start blogging after losing my husband. I have also told readers that my sister didn’t think people wanted to read about “my dead husband”. But that was not my intention even then. I think part of it was looking for the ability to “talk” to people, to find a community I fit in with. After losing my son I joined a support group and met a few other mothers who had lost children but I didn’t feel like I fit in there. The support group was great but it was really hard to think about all those other children who have died and also it felt off. I liked the group but I didn’t feel like it was going to be a long-term connection, and it wasn’t. Actually, COVID came and the groups stopped and you all know the rest of that…

I have found that my followers and other readers like some variety of writing. Some people like to read poetry, others like photos, sort of how I am. Many of the bloggers I follow don’t have a set theme per say, but rather they fit in with what the “community” is up to.

The one thing I do believe is that my honesty and genuine “personality” that comes out in my blog posts are what keep my site interesting. Sometimes it is sad, other times silly…nothing set in stone. I am not blogging to attract anyone per say. I just like talking to people and sharing in the activities of others. I like reading about what other people are doing and where they go. I love seeing pictures of the world, as I want to travel more than anything. I don’t base my writing on how many people liked the previous post…I just post!

Blogging Insights — New Format # 29 — Spam

This week Tanya has asked our opinion of this quote;


Successful people don’t spam.” — Adrienne Smith

I would never spam someone on purpose.
When I first started blogging someone told me I should include the ads in my blog because I would make money every time someone clicked on the ads. This to me was almost like spamming. It took away from everything I wanted to convey in my writing.

When I started the fundraiser for the scholarship in my son’s name (to honor his legacy) I did sort of “spam” a bit but it was only a link to the fundraiser and to people on my list on LinkedIn. Even if someone clicked on it there was no gimmick nor did it do anything bad to your computer. I guess it depends on what you consider spam. I did send out individual messages to everyone and actually reached my max one day, but it was for a good cause. Is that still spam?

Blogging Insights — New Format # 28

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“The first thing you need to decide when you build your blog is what you want to accomplish with it, and what it can do if successful.”

(Ron Dawson)

Many of the people who have been reading my blog since I started two years ago know that when I started my blog my sister had told me that “no one wanted to hear me cry about my dead husband”. That wasn’t why I wanted to start a blog. I think I just wanted the social interaction without the face to face stuff. I think I needed a place to talk to people about what I was going through without actually finding people and meeting up with them. Once I started blogging I realized it was so much more than what I thought.

Now, once in a while I do an update of myself, which I call From my desk, but not that often unless I have something I feel I need to speak about.

I love the challenges and all the writing. I guess all blogs are different and I was lucky to find one that is full of writers and other creative people. That is why I have stayed here. I think that is partly what a blog is supposed to do, help form some sort of community. The people I have blogging relationships with have things in common with me and I enjoy meeting up with these people on a pretty daily basis. I hope that someday, when traveling is safe and more affordable, I might be able to visit some of the people I have met.

So…in response to the quote: I don’t think it is completely necessary as long as you don’t have specific expectations. If you set expectations then you will probably be discouraged because I think the blogging community find each one of us, not vice versa.