1. Do you prefer to live in a single story property like a bungalow, a high rise apartment, or a house? The house we live in now is supposedly considered a bungalow. I am not really sure what the difference is. Until this question I never thought to look. I like living in a detached building. When I was living in a condo last year I was really miserable because there was no where to sit without people walking by all the time. Also, in the condo we were in you were not allowed to have chairs out on the main walkways so I always felt like that kept people, like my father, very isolated. He would have been happy if he could sit and chat to whoever came by.
2. If you won a large amount of money on the lottery, would you want publicity or keep things quiet and low key? Definitely on the down low. I don’t know if I would want to tell anyone but David and Lindsay. My dad wouldn’t understand and I guess a few friends would find out, I would probably be tempted to share the good news. But as they say, “if you don’t play, you don’t win” and I don’t play.
3. How do you like your eggs? (No, this is not a trick question) Over medium so that the yolk is runny but the whites are not. Like Fandango https://fivedotoh.com/2022/08/15/share-your-world-08-15-2022/ I like the egg in the bread, especially when the bread is nice and buttery. If I do an omelet my most recent “like” is sausage and swiss.
4. If cars were no longer available, what would be your choice of transport? Hard to say because of where I live. An ebike would probably end up being the winner because buses aren’t prevalent near me. To be totally honest I would love a helicopter.
Gratitude: Our aim is to make at least one person smile every day. Okay!
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What mythical creature would improve the world most if it existed? (If you don’t know, just choose something that you think would improve things ) A giant flying praying mantis type thing that would eat all the bad bugs and help clean the world.
Should the death penalty be re-instated? Why or why not? I think there are cases that it should. It costs tax payers so much money to provide for those inmates and if they are truly guilty then why should we have to pay to support them. My brother was in a high security prison years ago for armed robbery. He lived like a king…well one behind bars. He used to say that it wasn’t that bad. I know that is not the case everywhere and for everyone but think about it; three meals a day, a bed, heat, water….better than some people’s living situations. The problem is that there are those inmates that have been wrongly convicted. But there are some individuals like school shooters and those that are blatantly guilty.
Spontaneity Or Stability? Stability.
Can a dog/cat suffer? What about an ant? What about a plant? What about a bacteria cell? Why do some humans think we’re the only species that does suffer? Your thoughts? I think that everything can suffer but it depends on the capacity of its brain. You can see a dog and cat in pain. If an ant is in pain it doesn’t last long enough to show. Plants don’t have a brain like we do. I think anything that lives long enough to feel the pain, suffers.
What are two things that have brightened your day today? 1. Waking up knowing my daughter is in a loving, safe environment for the first time in two years. 2. Seeing my dog look up at me with so much love.
In one sentence, how would you sum up the internet? The internet is both a world of knowledge and a garbage dump of time wasted.
Is true beauty subjective or objective? (Anything objective sticks to the facts, but anything subjective has feelings) I had to look it up to make sure I was correct. I think true beauty is subjective. What I find beautiful might be meaningless to someone else and although we disagree, who is to say who is right and who is wrong. Facts are things that can be proven to be true, I think, and are true no matter who looks at it.
How many chickens would it take to kill an elephant? (like last week, I threw this one in for lightening things up a bit. There is no ‘right or wrong ‘ answer – just have fun with it). It would depend on the size of the elephant and if chickens is in a general sense, meaning is a rooster a chicken? If a rooster is considered a chicken then yes, definitely. I had three holes poked in my leg by a rooster. If he wanted to and I had no defenses he probably would have poked my eyes out. Then unfortunately, chickens will eat their dead “family members”. I think the elephant would have to be clueless though. It’s like letting a fly bite you. Fly:Person as Chicken:Elephant
If your five-year-old self suddenly found themselves inhabiting your current body, what would your five-year-old self do first? Eat candy
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What’s an aspect of your personality that you’re grateful for? I’m grateful that I truly feel happy for other people and care about them. I think some people have to act like they care, but they really don’t (like my sister….).
How did you spend the money from your very first job? When I was younger our middle school, which was grades 6 to 8, was close enough to walk “downtown”. On the town green we had all the “regular” stuff like the library and churches, but there were also a row of shops on one side. There was a single shop that had candy you could buy and a lot of it was penny candy. That is where it all went……
Would You Rather Look Like A Potato, Or Feel Like A Potato? (Note. I have no idea why they used the word “potato”, but just went with it. Answer any way you like, this question is purely for fun) I think I would rather feel like a potato. They seem like they would be laid back, not motivated to do much, easy-going, that is if we are personifying them. If you mean just the outside, then I would say I would rather look like a potato….smooth, brown skin, very few blemishes after they are washed.
What were the best pair of shoes you have owned? I sort of have a shoe-fettish so this is hard because I have probably owned thousands of shoes in my lifetime. One pair that I wore until they squeaked and couldn’t be fixed (I didn’t even know cobblers existed) were my Mudd loafers. They were black and had a huge chunky heal. The heal was probably 1.5 inches, maybe 2, but they were just so comfortable and I thought they looked good with everything. I guess it would all depend on what part of my life we are talking about….I also loved my Docksiders, when they were made with a square toe. I can’t find those anymore. By best do you mean fitting or looking? Lol.
Besides war and diplomacy, what would be the best way for countries to settle disputes? Mutual Surrender
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In these often depressing times, how do you find the bright spots? I try to look at how lucky I am with all the things I have. I also like to remember the people who I know love me and recall times that they expressed it.
When you were a kid, did you eat the crusts on your sandwich or not? I don’t totally remember but I believe we did unless mom cut them off. We were told that it was just part of the bread. I can sort of recall eating all the bread part to the crust. I used to cut the crusts off for my kids because it almost seemed like that made an opening to eat the sandwich.
Are you a fan of musicals—why or why not? Yes, and no. I enjoy them and when I have seen them they have been wonderful but I can’t even remember the last time I saw one. I do remember going to Phantom of the Opera when my kids were little but I also remember how hot it was and that I was falling asleep the whole time.
Is it difficult to do what you do? (for a living, hobby etc.). If you’re retired, what you ‘did’ previously for a job can be substituted. Teaching, especially Special Education, can be very hard. I always had the kids with social/emotional issues so that made it harder. I wouldn’t trade those years for anything though. Building my miniatures is not as much difficult as it is labor intensive. Putting all the tiny stuff together takes time. I love every minute of it. Making pottery can be very difficult but it seems to depend on the state of mind I am in. When I am more relaxed throwing pottery on a wheel turns into beautiful bowls. When I am super stressed out, hand-building a small animal or object can seem impossible.
What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to? (Doesn’t have to be a rock concert either). From what I recall I think my favorites were Pink Floyd and Tom Petty (separate shows).
Looking back over your life, what is one thing you’re grateful for? One thing you really regret? I am so grateful for my life with my husband and kids. I knew Bob longer than I knew my own mother! Then my kids…I don’t know if I would do it again, if given the option, but I don’t regret them one bit and love them more than life. One thing I really regret was the time my sister, whom does not like me one bit, told me that my son was growing pot in his closet. I went in and sure enough, he had the closet blacked out and was running lights and all that. I recall wondering why my electric bill was so high. So I went back and called her and told her I told him to get rid of it, get it out of my house. She got back to me and told me I was crazy! She told me to go in there and get rid of everything NOW! So I did. Joey ended up killing all the plants in my garden as revenge. Yes, it was screwed up that he was growing pot in my house and yes it was completely screwed up that he killed my plants (just because I killed his) but the thing I didn’t even stop to hear him say was that he was so proud of all the chemistry he had figured out to grow this beautiful plant. All his time and effort and he wasn’t even given the chance to get it out of my house, I just demolished it all. Why do I regret this? Because my son saw black and white, there was no gray. He saw what he did as a huge accomplishment and I totally wrecked it because my sister told me it was what I was supposed to do. I know my logic may be screwed up too and it isn’t just because my son died. I regretted it when he was alive. I just never told him how much I regretted it. It wasn’t the “right” thing to do as a parent – tell your kid you regret your own actions. And then after killing my plants, I was told that it was completely “fucked up” and that I should be so mad. I wasn’t. Maybe if people knew Joey they would have understood why I felt the way I did and why I wish I had given him the chance to get it out of my house in his own way, rather than destroy it. My therapist always told me I should really think about the fact that “why did he think it was okay to grow it in my house”. That makes more sense to me. I’m sure everyone has their own ideas but I’m the one that lives with it.
By the way, there are so many smaller instances of me listening to my sister that I regret and now that she has openly told me how much she doesn’t like me, the regret feels that much worse. But, those are all in the past……
In your opinion, how are we affecting our planet? I think many of us are ruining it when we don’t need to be. I don’t think it is all optional though. For example, we are getting our kitchen redone (even though I just fired the contractor!). Each cabinet came with cardboard on top, on bottom, around the sides…The one around the sides is line with plastic so I roll it and use it for drop clothes when I paint, but the rest I just break down and put out for the town guys to get. I don’t even know if it is recycled or put in the trash! Anyhow, I understand that it is shipped that way to avoid damage but imagine if a truck just came and dropped off the cabinets? I mean in the end the company might break even when they don’t have to pay for the production and use of all that cardboard. Another huge example, that makes me so angry, is junk mail. In the “junk mail” category I regrettably include mail from charitable sponsors. I mean, if the Disable Vets of America stopped sending me envelopes, with the postage, and then calendars and labels, book marks, etc. wouldn’t they have more money for the cause? They really even aren’t that bad. My father who has Alzheimer’s is still receiving mailing labels for his old address from a few organizations. Now, firstly, when I started living with him I sent each one back with a note saying he had Alzheimers so take him off the mailing list. Secondly, it’s his old address! My stepmother who has now been gone for over a year is still getting mailing labels and other various gifts even though I sent all of them back for a while with the word DECEASED written on the front. That is so much paper and I haven’t even gotten to the advertisements or the local flyers for supermarkets. Must I go on? Don’t get me going on packaging and plastics…Or food containers…
What solutions would you offer to stem the multiple problems we face vis a vis the destruction of our planet home? I think the best thing is to try and reuse as much as possible. I know there is not always an option. Then you have the plastics that they say if you reuse them there are chemicals that go into whatever you put in them. I also think we need to come up with more efficient ways of recycling. I have learned that most of our recycling has always gone to China. According to my source, China recycles more because they don’t have the EPA standards on air emissions like the US. I don’t know if this is true or not, and I don’t care to have an argument about it, but with what is going on in our world, China isn’t taking our products anymore. One way that I think is a really good idea is reusing the land that is used for landfills as public properties that don’t rely on ground water. For example, football fields and stadiums. Pipe in the water for drinking but that is a lot of surface area that can be saved and used more affectively. Disclaimer: these are only my ideas and not backed by any research. I’m just saying these things ’cause I think of them!
Do you think it’s already too late and we could just do exactly as we’re doing now and things would turn out the very same? I don’t think it is ever too late overall. I mean, yes we have animals that are extinct as well as plants and so on, but many of them can be saved. Also, now that we have the means, take DNA of things in danger, just in case. The saddest part of all this is the people who rely on things like poaching to survive. I do NOT agree with poaching and I DO believe it should be illegal but how do you stop the people from selling Ivory if that is the only way they make their money? Maybe we need more of an educational program for the world, and not just the advanced countries.
Do you participate in things like “Arbor Day” (a U.S. Holiday dedicated to planting new trees) or Earth Day or Earth Month? I don’t because for a few reasons. First, I really never remember about it until it is here or gone and then I think it is too late. Second, I haven’t always had a place to plant a new tree. I also don’t cut down any trees so that sort of counts, I think.
Is any of it important in the ‘Big Picture’? Yes, of course! If we don’t all join together to change some of the things affecting the earth, then we might as well just keep hoping and holding off the inevitable. You can’t change just some of it. Yes, some is better than nothing, but if we all don’t care the same it won’t be the same. I think we have just gotten so advanced that people care about different things. Maybe with technology some of the products we used to buy will decrease and that might help. I know that some things are necessary and some things are produced for good reason. It is the mindless stuff, like all the junk mail, that aggravates me the most.
What can you personally do to participate in the “Clean Earth” movement? I don’t litter and I pick up my dog poop. Dog poop doesn’t necessarily hurt the earth, but it hurts people’s shoes and livelihoods. I also use rainwater and water from the condenser, to cut down on fresh water use. I try to limit the amount of plastic I buy, especially if it is the kind that cannot be recycled.
I do have an idea, that is taken off of another that is already done, but…take all those plastic bottles that are littering the worlds’ waters and fill them with sand from areas that need to be cleared. Use them to build homes for either the homeless or for those living in areas of such poverty. Also, teach people in disadvantaged countries more ways to help themselves. I don’t think there are any immediate things, per say, but I think every bit will help.
Are you more productive at night or in the morning? Do you think it’s possible to change and get used to another schedule? Typically in the morning because I feel like I have plenty of time to get everything I want to do, done. I like that mid-day feel that I am “free” for the rest of the day because all of my chores are done. That being said, if I am home alone, morning or night, I get more done. I tend to get distracted when David is around. I find things I “have to” ask him and then get side tracked. Not his fault at all, just me!
What’s the biggest vehicle you’ve driven? If you don’t drive, what’s the biggest vehicle you’ve ridden in? I don’t know which is bigger, per se, as they are both big in their own way but at one time I drove a Chevy Astrovan which I loved. It fit both kids and carseats, usually my niece, nephew, their carseats, and my sister. Or it fit the family with carseats, strollers, dog, husband, and everything else for a day out or short trip. I also drove a Ford F150 pickup extended cab. That was bigger in height I suppose. I liked driving it except it wasn’t the best when getting groceries. The back wasn’t covered so if I did put groceries back there all the bags had to be tied lest I lose items on the way home. Or everything would be spread out throughout the truck bed by the time I got home. On rainy days I loaded groceries in the front seat and packed around the kids in the back seat.
What songs would be played on a loop in hell? (Suspend disbelief for this one, it’s cool not to believe in Hell, but let’s use our imaginations to answer. Of course one can always skip the questions they find odd too. And yes, I took into account that individual tastes will influence individual choices.) I’m not sure if I have a specific song but I do know that those “knock-off” versions of good songs, redone by lousy artists, would definitely be on the playlist. I get so aggravated when I look for a song I really like and listen to it, only to realize it sounds really different. Well, that’s because someone decided to turn on their home microphone and think they knew how to sing like a professional. This happens a lot with Disco. Yes, I love Disco music but I can’t stand “new” versions.
(Deep and chewy philosophical question): What does it mean to be a person? What constitutes “personhood?” (there may be some diverse opinions, but we’re all mature adults in here, so be respectful of others please). I almost think that being able to answer a question like this means you are a person. If someone has such narrow views of the world and who is right and who is wrong for whatever reason, then maybe they aren’t a real person through and through. I get that there is right and wrong but let me give you an example. I do pottery now and the owner of the studio tells all new members and students that her studio is one open to inclusion and there is no tolerance for non-acceptance. There are two members that I know of that want to be addressed as “they” and other’s who you honestly just don’t know. For me, I don’t care what you do to yourself or call yourself. If it makes you happy that is great. Your decisions don’t really effect me.
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How were your spirits (mood) over the past week? Generally happy with one small dark cloud of my son that lingers close by. I don’t think that cloud will ever go away but I do have blue skies above me today.
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What fictional family would you like to be part of? (think TV shows, cartoon or books or some fictional family that you admire) Definitely the Brady Bunch. I love their house and would love to have all those siblings.
Which band or artist would you like to play at your funeral or memorial service? (the artist can have passed on too) I would love Freddy Mercury to play at my funeral. Since he can’t I think I would like Andy Grammar or Soja!
Preference. Popcorn, M&Ms or other. Choose something you love snacking on. Ice cream. Any flavor, any time, any day, any meal….
If you could be any supernatural (fantasy) character, what would you be? (Think Elves, fairies, dragons or whatever) I would want to be one of the Wonder Twins….I would want to be the one that turns into animals and other things, not water or anything fluid.
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Please share the best advice you’ve ever gotten which you feel ought to be shared with everyone.
My mom always said: Only you can make you happy, don’t rely on someone else for your own happiness.
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Is any one person’s life worth more than another’s? Why or why not? I think it all depends on what is at stake. My daughter is more valuable to me than other girls her age, especially ones I don’t know. No one deserves to die or be killed, unless God decides. But, as I have learned the hard way, any one person can be gone in a flash and it isn’t until this time that we can see 100% of the value.
Can a good person do evil things and remain a good person? Under what circumstances? What is evil? I mean it is evil to kill another person but when Osama Bin Laden was killed it was to keep people safe. Are killers evil? Sure, most of them I presume. But what about the spouse that kills the other spouse after being abused? It is an evil gesture but they aren’t an evil person. People who rob other people are doing something evil, taking what is not theirs, but what about the person who hasn’t had food in a few days and without thinking saw an opportunity? They aren’t necessarily evil, they are probably not in their right mind being so impoverished. I think a lot of it is intention. What you did, was in intended to hurt someone purposely? Is that person in their right mind to even know?
Is somebody morally culpable if they take a morally wrong action at the orders of a superior? What if their life is at stake? I think it would only be if their life is immediately at risk and there are no other options then something may have to happen. Is it right? no. If someone was holding a gun to me and said I had to kill someone or be killed I think I would let them kill me. I don’t want to kill someone. I guess it also depends on what the action is. Is it something that can be repaired? Is it something that can never be taken back? If you are told to rob a bank or be killed, I’d rob the bank, but the only thing that would be physically hurt is the cash. I don’t know….there are so many parameters to consider. I would hope and pray I would never be put in a situation like that.
People had widely mixed opinions about illegal bananas, so let’s take that a step further this week: What would be the worst thing for a government to make illegal? Water.
What’s the most useful thing you know? How to read directions! I put all the stuff I purchase together. I have often thought about doing it as a side job…I’ve seen that advertised before. I’m very good at any type of directions
What impact do you think it would have on the world if bananas were illegal? I don’t think people would care. I think people would just find something else to use in its place. The world seems like it is like that. I would miss them.
What social stigma does society need to just get over? Race…Good Lord! How many pieces of evidence do we need to show that the human body is the human body no matter what color it comes in!
Do you prefer the moral viewpoint of consequentialism*, which focuses on the consequences of actions, or deontology,* which focuses on the innate rightness or wrongness of the actions themselves? I think both because it starts with deontology and then if people pick the wrong thing to do they deal with consequentialism.
* the doctrine that the morality of an action is to be judged solely by its consequences.
* the study of the nature of duty and obligation.
GRATITUDE SECTION (As always optional)
Please feel free to share something good that happened to you in the past week.
I am thankful that I have enough time to do some of the things I enjoy the most like crafting, building miniatures, crocheting…etc.