Why do we dream?I think we dream because we have so many ideas in our heads and so many things that we think about. Our days are chock full of stimulation, there is no way that the conscious mind can tend to it all in a day. The thing I don’t understand is how they are supposedly so short even though it may feel like a dream lasts all night!
Do you think a person’s name influences the person they become?I’m not sure if it influences who they become but I think it can influence how they interact with others. I suppose that does affect how they grow and develop. My mom used to say that kids with strange names had it harder in life because people would always wonder where their names came from, what they meant, if they were an indicator of who the person was. I don’t believe it to that extent but I do think that looking to make your child the most original with a weird name can be confusing to them when they start school and feel like they are so different because all the other kids have “normal” names.
Does hardship make a person stronger? (example: What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger)I don’t think it is the hardship that makes you stronger, it is how you deal with it and choose to learn from it. My life is very different than it was three years ago and although it has been difficult I don’t think it has made me stronger. In actuality it has almost weakened my strenght.
Why do we judge ourselves by our intentions, but judge others by their actions?Because you can’ read others’ minds to know their intentions, you only see what they do…how they act.
I am so grateful for my daughter, for David, for Laurette, and my dad. They make it all worth it!
Do you enjoy skiing or ice skating or if it’s warm where you are, hiking or enjoying outdoor sports?I used to ski. I don’t know if I ever loved it. I loved it once I was there doing it but the thought of going and skiing is just not… I ice skated as a kid. I don’t think I ever really liked it either. I did when I had skates with double blades so I didn’t fall down. I used to love roller-blading. I guess I like the warmer weather sports. Sometimes I think I am sort of boring like that because I can live without a lot of activities…
Do you give to charities or homeless that you might encounter, during this time of year, more than you do otherwise?The only charity I give to more this time of year is Salvation Army because they have their bell ringers out. Growing up my dad used to say to always give a little to Salvation Army when you see them because Salvation Army sent him to summer camp when he was a kid. He said his family was too poor to afford something like summer camp. On a regular basis I give to Disabled American Vets. I also give to St. Jude Shrine and St. Judes Children Hospital. My stepmom gives to Shriners. My dad to St. Judes. I always think if everyone just grabbed a few coins out of the bottom of their purse that would add up.
What is the most enjoyable activity you engage in during December? Is it a tradition for you and your family?The most enjoyable activity for December is cooking for my family. I love to cook and make cookies and good food. I used to host Christmas Eve and invited everyone who wanted to come. Since losing my husband and then my son, and now COVID, I’m really just cooking for myself, David and Lindsay.
What changes will C-19 bring to your festive celebrations this year? Honestly, this year will probably be like last year. Quiet. This will be the first time I am not in Florida with my dad for Christmas but with the prices of travel at the holidays, it is just too expensive. On top of that I want to be around for Lindsay since it is just her and I now, well with David of course…
Is cereal soup? Why or why not? Cereal is not soup because it never becomes a new thing when you pour the milk in, it is still cereal with milk. On the other hand, when you put broth, chicken, veggies, and spices together it makes soup. You wouldn’t really say “I’m going to have some chicken and veggies with some broth”.
What are some interesting ways to answer everyday questions like “how’s it going” or “what do you do”?How’s it going?: How is what going? What do you do?: When?
What was your favorite toy growing up? My favorite toy growing up was my Holly Hobby Treehouse and my Little People House. The tree house was a cardboard sort of gazebo that all the sides came down to have different “areas”. There was the picnic area where you could put all the little foods. Then there was the swing area that actually had a swing attached. My Little People House was awesome and I guess I would include the other buildings I had, like the castle. I loved that there were trap doors and secret hiding spots.
If you have a pet, and you could ask it three questions, what would you ask? I would ask my dog – 1. Don’t you get tired of laying around all day doing nothing? 2. Is that kibble really tasty and do the different “flavors” really taste different? 3. Does the slime out in the dirty water bowl outside that has filled with rainwater add to the taste of the water, since you would rather drink that than clean water from the tap. I would ask my guinea pigs – 1. If you had a choice how long would you let your teeth get? 2. Does it gross you out a little to know that your teeth grow? 3. Do you see me as an evil giant even though you know me and I feed you or do you recognize me and just run away for the fun of it?
Attitude of Gratitude Section (Always Optional)
What’s one simple thing society at large could do to improve our world? Accept everyone despite their differences.
When was the last time you tried something new? How did that go for you? Funny that I saw this today because I tried something new today! I tried to make a cinnamon swirl bread using my bread machine. It came out pretty good but not what I really wanted. Now that I know what the dough will do, I can work with it again another time and get it closer to what I wanted. If anyone is from Rhode Island or has visited and has been to Aunt Carrie’s Restaurant…that is the bread I want to make!
What’s the most sensible thing you’ve ever heard someone say? ….I have no idea….
How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? I think I would be about 32. I know I’m not young enough to be in my 20’s nor do I want to be, but I think early thirties would fit me.
Lastly, I’ll be doing one “Halloween” themed question per week during October. Those who don’t observe the holiday are welcome to answer or to ignore it as they wish.
Fun CREEPY Halloween Question:
Have you ever seen a ‘fresh’ corpse (aka dead body)? Yes, twice…after they’ve been to the morgue but not embalmed or anything. My late husband and my son. I have seen plenty of embalmed people but I don’t know if that counts, they are sort of plastic at that point. I’m sorry if I am offending anyone with my answer….it’s just how I feel.
GRATITUDE SECTION (always optional)
Do you enjoy any seasonal traditions around this time of year?
I am grateful for my friend Mary who has always included me and my family in their holiday festivities. Not having a large extended family, it is sometimes hard when holidays come and you hear about who had their kids and grandkids over, who went to the uncle’s house, whose brother got wasted and made a fool of himself….
Many local regions, especially rural areas where I live, have haunted houses. Have you ever spent the night in a house that was supposedly haunted? Anything ‘strange” happen?I have always wanted to stay in a local haunted place. I can’t get in legally and no one wants to “help”. Anyhow, the last time I was in Savannah, GA I stayed at the Foley Inn, which is supposed to be haunted. I didn’t hear or feel anything. In the morning, as I lay there, I talked to the spirit and told him he could come chat. He didn’t. I also said to my late husband and son, “Hey, will you guys give me some sort of sign that you are with me?” Nothing. Later, after checking out I went to Bonaventure Cemetery. It was nice. As I was ready to leave a bird flew by my head. It was a Pileated Woodpecker! I have been trying to see one for the last 13 years! It flew over to a tree near me. I wondered “Is that Bob or Joey?” All of a sudden a second Pileated woodpecker came out of the tree! The two flew over to another tree. They landed and then the two of them hopped together along one of the branches. After a few moments, they flew together back to the tree that they lived in. Well, whether you believe or not…That was my late husband Bob and my son Joey giving me a sign that they knew I would understand! I bawled my eyes out.
The Quidditch Cup (riding broomsticks while chasing a small ball) was a huge sporting event in the land of Hogwarts. What is the largest sporting event (or concert, etc.) that you have ever attended?I think I would have to say Pink Floyd at Gillette Stadium in Massachusetts where the New England Patriots play. Great concert!
When you go for a swim, do you prefer an ocean, the seaside lakes, or a pool?I like the clear, salty water of the ocean. I love that there are no creatures in a pool. Lakes used to be a favorite but now that I know what lives under that water…Oh, hell no!
Ron Weasley received a horrid robe to wear as formal wear to the Christmas dance at Hogwarts. Tell about the most ‘ghastly’ fashion statement that you have ever made.On purpose or thinking I looked good? The worst thing was going to work with one black shoe and one navy shoe, same style…
Muggle Questions (from Melanie):
What is the last song you sang along to?When I sing in the car I don’t really know what I am singing once it is turned off, I just sing everything. The last song I purposely sang was “My Church” by Maren Morris.
What was your scariest nightmare about?I have a lot of nightmares, usually about spiders that I can’t get rid of or that keep “showing up”. I’ve had those where someone is super creepy and trying to get me. When I am super stressed out I have nightmares about waitressing and all of the problems I have when working, making me wake up exhausted, “from working all night!”.
What food do you crave most often?Chocolate Ice Cream, Rice Crispy Treats, and many other things… (Buffalo Wings, Cheeseburgers with American Cheese, Mustard and Ketchup, and Mexican Food)
What’s your grossest bug story?When I was a kid we had a Gypsy Moth Caterpillar outbreak. We rode our bikes and watched them squish out greenish yellow guts. You could also hear them being squished. It was so gross but they covered every surface!
I am grateful for David who is so supportive and encouraging. He hasn’t “blunk” an eye since I have been gone for three weeks with my father and step-mother. That is a big relief to not have a stressor like that!
For the next several weeks “Share Your World” will have two parts. The awesome blogger, Roger Shipp, is the creator and host (if you will) of the first part. He found a unique way of passing some of the quarantine time and that was from watching ALL the “Harry Potter” movies. He came up with some really fun and intriguing questions (four a week for each movie) about the movie in question. This week we visit “HP And The Prisoner Of Azkaban”. I’m going to link to Roger‘s blog so you can post your link over on his blog OR you can do it here as usual.https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.com/2020/08/24/share-your-world-8-24-2020/
Share Your World Meets Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban
One of my favorite gifts that Harry Potter received came from the Weasley Twins; and was “Mrs. Mooney’s Marauder’s Map”. This magical document showed every classroom, hallway and secret corner in all of Hogwarts. It also showed you the location- by name- of every person in Hogwarts. If you had such a magical map of your town, what would you use it for? If you would not use it, is there another person to whom you would gift it?I think I would gift it. I don’t have much interest in the town that I live in. I have a handful of friends and now that my daughter is out of school I don’t have much reason to think about it.
When was the last time you made a snowball? Were in a snowball fight?I made snowball this past winter. I didn’t have a snowball fight because I have always hated getting hit. My first year at college there was a snowball fight between two dorms. Almost every window broke. I don’t know if anyone got hurt but I wouldn’t be surprised.
Many cultures set great value in each child of the family having godparents. Did you have godparents? Are you a godparent yourself?I did have godparents and I know my godfather was my Uncle Joe. He died when I was a toddler. I don’t know who my godmother was.
You have found a secret tunnel under your house. Where does it go?It goes to my happy place. It is the perfect temperature, no bugs, no negativity and a place where I can zone out and “talk” to my son in heaven. Only people who really love me know where to find me.
Muggle Questions (of a more philosophical bent this week):
Is intelligence or wisdom more useful? I think wisdom is more useful. If you are wise you can find intelligence but if you are only intelligent you might not never know what to do with it.
How important is play in living a healthy and fulfilling life?Paramount. Laughter heals.
Is happiness just chemicals flowing through your brain or something more?It is much more. It is chemicals that get triggered but something has to trigger them, either internally or externally. I think everyone is capable of happiness but they have to be willing. I also think some people push it away and prefer to be miserable.
GRATITUDE SECTION (Always optional)
I am grateful that my stepmother is home from the hospital and alive. I am grateful for the time I get to spend with my dad.
Feel free to share some photos, an image, a meme, a story or incident or a poem that helps you feel grateful.
If you ask most people they would agree that I am pretty easy going, most of the time, and easy to please. I get a little ornery in a few situations: *if someone accuses me of lying *if someone tells me I am wrong about something that I know is 100% right. *if someone wants to do something that is going to be a bad idea and they don’t want to listen to me about it. *when I am super tired and haven’t had a meltdown yet
I am not high maintenance
I like kindness
I cannot stand the ugliness of purposeful nastiness
I am sensitive and think out everything, and I mean everything!
Share Your World Meets Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets
Harry Potter can speak to snakes. If you were able to have conversations with any one animal, what animal would you like to speak to? What would be the topic of your first conversation?If I could talk to any animal I think it would have to be dogs. I just want to hear what they have to say about how they are treated and what they are really thinking. They always seem so happy, well the pets and the ones who are treated okay, but what really makes them happy? Is it their food or treats? Is it physical attention. I wish I had more money because I want to bring some of those poor dogs home from the shelters so they can die in a loving home.
The portraits in Hogwart’s dormitories can talk. If your graduation portrait could speak to people passing it by, what would it tell them?My picture would be telling people passing by to stop and think about what they are doing and where they want to go. Really think about what kind of future you want, not what you think you should be. I wish I had that when I was in high school to see all the opportunities that were right in front of me.
Harry Potter, Ron Weasley, and Hermione Granger use the Pollyjuice Potion for finding new clues for the happenings at Hogwarts. (The Pollyjuice Potion is a magic potion that allows your body to form into that of another and live their life for a few hours.) If you could transform into another being, who would you chose to be? What would you hope to learn?I think I would want to be a famous author. Maybe Graeme Base so I could figure out where his ideas come from and how he draws his fantastic illustrations.
There was a flooding in the girl’s bathroom where Moaning Myrtle resides. What has been the most dangerous (or comical) ‘flooding’ where you reside?About six or eight years ago I had a work area set up in our basement where I made jewelry. I also had an area that had my cooking things, one spot for yarns, etc. I don’t remember if we heard a boom but the pipe that carries waste to the septic tank busted and exploded into the basement. Apparently, the pipe the builder used for the septic was the wrong size. Over all the years it just weakened and weakened…Until it was all over my basement. The point that actually broke, or exploded, was the part of the pipe directly over my craft areas. It was so gross. I don’t even know how much “money” I lost after that.
*************************************************************** Mundane or “Muggle” Questions:
(Serious one which is rather creepy): How do you think you’ll die? IF you do think about it?I try not to think about it. But I think I will die of old age.
What’s the best on-line screen name you’ve seen? “Best might mean the oddest.I can’t think of any names…Chewy maybe, from Star Wars…Nemo maybe…There are so many characters in the Disney “world” that would qualify.
What’s invisible that you wish people could see?Stupidity. Maybe a visible scale that floats above your head.
If over time you replace parts on a car, at what point does it stop being the same car you bought? How many parts do you need to replace to make it a new car?It’s not a new car until you replace the outside of it. All the inside parts are made in such bulk so that doesn’t matter. It’s really just the outside of the car that you see, that you really bought.
For the next several weeks “Share Your World” will have two parts. The awesome blogger, Roger Shipp, is the creator and host (if you will) of the first part. He found a unique way of passing some of the quarantine time and that was from watching ALL the “Harry Potter” movies. He came up with some really fun and intriguing questions (four a week for each movie) about the movie in question. This week we visit “The Chamber of Secrets”. I’m going to link to Roger‘s blog so you can post your link over on his blog OR you can do it here as usual.
I’m reiterating last week’s ‘disclaimer’: Now I realize some folks have never seen nor read a single book or seen any movie about Harry Potter. Therefore I’m going to do three or four ‘regular’ questions for folks who aren’t Harry fans. It’s cool to do both sets OR just one or the other, as you wish.
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This weeks questions
What’s something you really resent paying for? Does it have to be just one? For a recent purchase I resent that I paid for the Lucy Tool. It is not what they advertise. For a past purchase I would say the cosmetic surgery I had. It was so not worth it, horrible then, fine now, but unnecessary!
Do you judge people? Yes but I keep it to myself until I know for sure.
Finish this sentence: “Back in my day, we…”? Back in the day, we used to play outside all day, every day and if we were thirsty someone always had a garden hose! We never went in other kids’ homes unless some strange emergency, and we didn’t snack like kids do today. If we were hungry we would eat those clover flowers and I don’t know what else, but there were no snacks!
Please feel free to share an uplifting photo, thought or meme to show your own gratitude. We can all use some good vibes!
I am grateful for David who helped me clear my flowerbeds of leaves, without me asking, because that was the first time (at least that I can remember) that I had help doing it. I remember Bob helping a few times after I pleaded for help! Lol! Most of the time I never really asked for help, I just did it by myself. This year, David did it and told me he did it after he was already done! Woo Hoo!!!!
I am also grateful for my mail lady – Summer – because I order almost everything and she puts everything neatly on my deck, year round. I don’t know her last name. I left her a gift card about two weeks ago and I haven’t seen her since. I hope she got it. Otherwise someone is enjoying Dunkin’ instead of her!
After my son passed away I was devastated. I had just (13 months prior) lost my husband now my son! The mourning process has been so much different than it was for Bob. It seems to be much more painful and I sometimes don’t know how I will ever feel better. July will be one year since he passed.
One of the things I learned as I watched a great webinar on grieving https://youtu.be/d5lYBsuqkxI was that instead of being so sad about his death, to think about the legacy I want to leave for him. It seems like this would be obvious or what you would do anyhow but when you think about it, what do you want people to remember about the loved one that died.
For Joey, he was so smart. He got a perfect score of 800 on Math SATs. Still in high school he took a college level Differentials math class and the professor said she learned things from him! No one could ever believe how smart he was. He was funny too. He had his issues and went through some extremely tough times as an adolescent but he had just graduated high school and I saw a whole new world opening up for him.
After Bob, my husband/his dad, died, Joey insisted on buying a motorcycle. He and Bob had talked about it often as Bob used to ride. I was scared to death and at the time didn’t know what I would do financially, so I told him if he was going to buy it he would have to save and do all the work on his own. Well, he saved $8000 in cash, got his motorcycle license, took the appropriate class and bought the motorcycle. He loved that bike.
He died on that bike.
My heart will never be the same.
The legacy I want to leave is how brilliant he was and how the world is now going to miss out of someone that would’ve changed our world. Someday, once all this corona stuff is over I want to try and start a scholarship at his magnet high school, under his name. That will be very fulfilling.