How do you feel about sharing your computer or phone password with your partner? I don’t really mind but it doesn’t really ever come up. Sometimes I like to think it is nice to have a “place” to go that no one else can go to but if David asked I would tell him.
What is the greatest struggle you’ve overcome? (This isn’t meant to be invasive, just use general terms if you’d like. Or if not, feel free to pass on the question. That’s allowed too). Losing my son and being able to be happy again.
If heaven is real and you died tomorrow, do you think you would get in? Why or why not? (this is purely speculation, no bias if you don’t believe) Definitely get in. I have done a few naughty things in my life but nothing bad enough to warrant me going anywhere else!
What makes you feel like you really need to be alone? Being really tired! When I am tired I am irritable which then makes me get annoyed easily. I have a few sensory issues so if I am really tired I get agitated easy.
GRATITUDE SECTION (as always, optional)
Do you have any traditions around this time of year? not anymore…time to make new ones I suppose!
1) If you were to be cast as part of a comedy double act, which part would you play: the straight man or the funny one, and why? I would probably start of as the straight woman but then end up being the funny one once I got into it. Once I get on a roll I’m good…
2) If you were to be reincarnated on Earth as any non-living/inanimate object of your choosing, what would you come back as and why? Hmmm….I guess maybe I would like to be a freezer…people like to put things in there to save and a lot of times they fill it with good stuff like ice cream. Who doesn’t like a little extra freezer space?
3) We all know how dogs mark their territory. How do you mark your territory? I make miniature things that are very detailed. People have come to see miniature things and think of me.
4) If you were on a trivia show and had to correctly answer ten questions in one subject to win a million dollars (or whatever currency is used in your locale), what would you hope the category would be? Potpourri – a little of everything
5) In democratic societies, do you believe that the right to vote is merely a privilege or a duty for all citizens? This should not be thought of as an “Americans only” question. ANY ONE is welcome to answer. I think it is sort of both. I think that it is a privilege that can be lost, like if you commit a crime but I also think it a duty so that the system works properly. The way the government seems to want to make new rules about voting so I don’t really believe in its truth-aspect. I mean, if you vote but the decision is based on a bunch of other factors, what’s the point?
Do you believe in second chances? I think second chances are okay if both parties genuinely want a different outcome than the first. The question is, why do you need a second chance? Is it that you didn’t really try the first time? I think it needs to be looked at closely to see if a second chance is really a worthy endeavor.
Is your glass half full or half empty? Almost always half full. I think that if you think of the negative then you get the negative. If you focus on the positive points then you see things brighter and more positive.
Would you rather someone be honest and hurt your feelings or lie to protect them? If I had to pick I would say, just be honest. I mean if they see something about me or feel a way about me then chances are someone else is out there that will feel the same or see things the same as they do. In the end, if you don’t care even after they tell the truth then no one is hurt by it.
When have you felt your biggest adrenaline rush? When I get on a roller coaster.
What are you grateful for? I’m grateful I have a place to come home to and to have a roof over my head. I am not completely happy where I am right now but I am safe and healthy here so I hate to complain. I can’t even imagine how many people in the world would kill to have a crammed apartment, just to have a place to live.
What are you most proud of in the last year?I think I am most proud of the fact that I was forced to move to a new state, without notice, without my belongings, and without the people who love me to take care of my father and I kept it together, didn’t let myself fall apart, and have found ways to be happy with life as it now is.
If you see a puddle on the ground, do you walk around it or give in to the child within and splash about?Definitely walk around it because it could have worms in it or other creatures that live in the gross water. That being said, if the puddle is on pavement or a sidewalk and you can see clear to the bottom I might make a small splash, just not enough to get to wet.
Do you feel free? Why or why not?What does free mean? I guess I have a pretty good life where I have a lot of different freedoms. I have been blessed with enough to not be too needy of anything. I have lost a lot, especially my son, but I haven’t let that sadness keep me a prisoner.
What life skills are rarely taught but are extremely useful?Believe it or not I don’t think “cleaning up after yourself” is given the same priority as when I was a kid. People of every age seem to walk in, make a mess, and not care to walk out. I think of the movie theater. The lights go on and there is garbage everywhere. Then you look at a flight…Yes, the space is tight and yes it is not comfortable, but hey, you obviously had enough money to fly instead of drive so think of yourself as lucky with just that. But the amount of trash left on an airplane is embarrassing. Especially when the crew walks up and down the aisle with a plastic garbage bag, willing to take any and all of your garbage.
GRATITUDE SECTION (always optional)
Please share some gratitude with everyone! There are lots of reasons just now I think!I am so grateful that I have a roof over my head, even though it is not one I have chosen. I could complain but then I think about the people who don’t have anywhere to go.
Why do we dream?I think we dream because we have so many ideas in our heads and so many things that we think about. Our days are chock full of stimulation, there is no way that the conscious mind can tend to it all in a day. The thing I don’t understand is how they are supposedly so short even though it may feel like a dream lasts all night!
Do you think a person’s name influences the person they become?I’m not sure if it influences who they become but I think it can influence how they interact with others. I suppose that does affect how they grow and develop. My mom used to say that kids with strange names had it harder in life because people would always wonder where their names came from, what they meant, if they were an indicator of who the person was. I don’t believe it to that extent but I do think that looking to make your child the most original with a weird name can be confusing to them when they start school and feel like they are so different because all the other kids have “normal” names.
Does hardship make a person stronger? (example: What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger)I don’t think it is the hardship that makes you stronger, it is how you deal with it and choose to learn from it. My life is very different than it was three years ago and although it has been difficult I don’t think it has made me stronger. In actuality it has almost weakened my strenght.
Why do we judge ourselves by our intentions, but judge others by their actions?Because you can’ read others’ minds to know their intentions, you only see what they do…how they act.
I am so grateful for my daughter, for David, for Laurette, and my dad. They make it all worth it!
Do you enjoy skiing or ice skating or if it’s warm where you are, hiking or enjoying outdoor sports?I used to ski. I don’t know if I ever loved it. I loved it once I was there doing it but the thought of going and skiing is just not… I ice skated as a kid. I don’t think I ever really liked it either. I did when I had skates with double blades so I didn’t fall down. I used to love roller-blading. I guess I like the warmer weather sports. Sometimes I think I am sort of boring like that because I can live without a lot of activities…
Do you give to charities or homeless that you might encounter, during this time of year, more than you do otherwise?The only charity I give to more this time of year is Salvation Army because they have their bell ringers out. Growing up my dad used to say to always give a little to Salvation Army when you see them because Salvation Army sent him to summer camp when he was a kid. He said his family was too poor to afford something like summer camp. On a regular basis I give to Disabled American Vets. I also give to St. Jude Shrine and St. Judes Children Hospital. My stepmom gives to Shriners. My dad to St. Judes. I always think if everyone just grabbed a few coins out of the bottom of their purse that would add up.
What is the most enjoyable activity you engage in during December? Is it a tradition for you and your family?The most enjoyable activity for December is cooking for my family. I love to cook and make cookies and good food. I used to host Christmas Eve and invited everyone who wanted to come. Since losing my husband and then my son, and now COVID, I’m really just cooking for myself, David and Lindsay.
What changes will C-19 bring to your festive celebrations this year? Honestly, this year will probably be like last year. Quiet. This will be the first time I am not in Florida with my dad for Christmas but with the prices of travel at the holidays, it is just too expensive. On top of that I want to be around for Lindsay since it is just her and I now, well with David of course…
Is cereal soup? Why or why not? Cereal is not soup because it never becomes a new thing when you pour the milk in, it is still cereal with milk. On the other hand, when you put broth, chicken, veggies, and spices together it makes soup. You wouldn’t really say “I’m going to have some chicken and veggies with some broth”.
What are some interesting ways to answer everyday questions like “how’s it going” or “what do you do”?How’s it going?: How is what going? What do you do?: When?
What was your favorite toy growing up? My favorite toy growing up was my Holly Hobby Treehouse and my Little People House. The tree house was a cardboard sort of gazebo that all the sides came down to have different “areas”. There was the picnic area where you could put all the little foods. Then there was the swing area that actually had a swing attached. My Little People House was awesome and I guess I would include the other buildings I had, like the castle. I loved that there were trap doors and secret hiding spots.
If you have a pet, and you could ask it three questions, what would you ask? I would ask my dog – 1. Don’t you get tired of laying around all day doing nothing? 2. Is that kibble really tasty and do the different “flavors” really taste different? 3. Does the slime out in the dirty water bowl outside that has filled with rainwater add to the taste of the water, since you would rather drink that than clean water from the tap. I would ask my guinea pigs – 1. If you had a choice how long would you let your teeth get? 2. Does it gross you out a little to know that your teeth grow? 3. Do you see me as an evil giant even though you know me and I feed you or do you recognize me and just run away for the fun of it?
Attitude of Gratitude Section (Always Optional)
What’s one simple thing society at large could do to improve our world? Accept everyone despite their differences.
When was the last time you tried something new? How did that go for you? Funny that I saw this today because I tried something new today! I tried to make a cinnamon swirl bread using my bread machine. It came out pretty good but not what I really wanted. Now that I know what the dough will do, I can work with it again another time and get it closer to what I wanted. If anyone is from Rhode Island or has visited and has been to Aunt Carrie’s Restaurant…that is the bread I want to make!
What’s the most sensible thing you’ve ever heard someone say? ….I have no idea….
How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? I think I would be about 32. I know I’m not young enough to be in my 20’s nor do I want to be, but I think early thirties would fit me.
Lastly, I’ll be doing one “Halloween” themed question per week during October. Those who don’t observe the holiday are welcome to answer or to ignore it as they wish.
Fun CREEPY Halloween Question:
Have you ever seen a ‘fresh’ corpse (aka dead body)? Yes, twice…after they’ve been to the morgue but not embalmed or anything. My late husband and my son. I have seen plenty of embalmed people but I don’t know if that counts, they are sort of plastic at that point. I’m sorry if I am offending anyone with my answer….it’s just how I feel.
GRATITUDE SECTION (always optional)
Do you enjoy any seasonal traditions around this time of year?
I am grateful for my friend Mary who has always included me and my family in their holiday festivities. Not having a large extended family, it is sometimes hard when holidays come and you hear about who had their kids and grandkids over, who went to the uncle’s house, whose brother got wasted and made a fool of himself….
Many local regions, especially rural areas where I live, have haunted houses. Have you ever spent the night in a house that was supposedly haunted? Anything ‘strange” happen?I have always wanted to stay in a local haunted place. I can’t get in legally and no one wants to “help”. Anyhow, the last time I was in Savannah, GA I stayed at the Foley Inn, which is supposed to be haunted. I didn’t hear or feel anything. In the morning, as I lay there, I talked to the spirit and told him he could come chat. He didn’t. I also said to my late husband and son, “Hey, will you guys give me some sort of sign that you are with me?” Nothing. Later, after checking out I went to Bonaventure Cemetery. It was nice. As I was ready to leave a bird flew by my head. It was a Pileated Woodpecker! I have been trying to see one for the last 13 years! It flew over to a tree near me. I wondered “Is that Bob or Joey?” All of a sudden a second Pileated woodpecker came out of the tree! The two flew over to another tree. They landed and then the two of them hopped together along one of the branches. After a few moments, they flew together back to the tree that they lived in. Well, whether you believe or not…That was my late husband Bob and my son Joey giving me a sign that they knew I would understand! I bawled my eyes out.
The Quidditch Cup (riding broomsticks while chasing a small ball) was a huge sporting event in the land of Hogwarts. What is the largest sporting event (or concert, etc.) that you have ever attended?I think I would have to say Pink Floyd at Gillette Stadium in Massachusetts where the New England Patriots play. Great concert!
When you go for a swim, do you prefer an ocean, the seaside lakes, or a pool?I like the clear, salty water of the ocean. I love that there are no creatures in a pool. Lakes used to be a favorite but now that I know what lives under that water…Oh, hell no!
Ron Weasley received a horrid robe to wear as formal wear to the Christmas dance at Hogwarts. Tell about the most ‘ghastly’ fashion statement that you have ever made.On purpose or thinking I looked good? The worst thing was going to work with one black shoe and one navy shoe, same style…
Muggle Questions (from Melanie):
What is the last song you sang along to?When I sing in the car I don’t really know what I am singing once it is turned off, I just sing everything. The last song I purposely sang was “My Church” by Maren Morris.
What was your scariest nightmare about?I have a lot of nightmares, usually about spiders that I can’t get rid of or that keep “showing up”. I’ve had those where someone is super creepy and trying to get me. When I am super stressed out I have nightmares about waitressing and all of the problems I have when working, making me wake up exhausted, “from working all night!”.
What food do you crave most often?Chocolate Ice Cream, Rice Crispy Treats, and many other things… (Buffalo Wings, Cheeseburgers with American Cheese, Mustard and Ketchup, and Mexican Food)
What’s your grossest bug story?When I was a kid we had a Gypsy Moth Caterpillar outbreak. We rode our bikes and watched them squish out greenish yellow guts. You could also hear them being squished. It was so gross but they covered every surface!
I am grateful for David who is so supportive and encouraging. He hasn’t “blunk” an eye since I have been gone for three weeks with my father and step-mother. That is a big relief to not have a stressor like that!
For the next several weeks “Share Your World” will have two parts. The awesome blogger, Roger Shipp, is the creator and host (if you will) of the first part. He found a unique way of passing some of the quarantine time and that was from watching ALL the “Harry Potter” movies. He came up with some really fun and intriguing questions (four a week for each movie) about the movie in question. This week we visit “HP And The Prisoner Of Azkaban”. I’m going to link to Roger‘s blog so you can post your link over on his blog OR you can do it here as usual.https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.com/2020/08/24/share-your-world-8-24-2020/
Share Your World Meets Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban
One of my favorite gifts that Harry Potter received came from the Weasley Twins; and was “Mrs. Mooney’s Marauder’s Map”. This magical document showed every classroom, hallway and secret corner in all of Hogwarts. It also showed you the location- by name- of every person in Hogwarts. If you had such a magical map of your town, what would you use it for? If you would not use it, is there another person to whom you would gift it?I think I would gift it. I don’t have much interest in the town that I live in. I have a handful of friends and now that my daughter is out of school I don’t have much reason to think about it.
When was the last time you made a snowball? Were in a snowball fight?I made snowball this past winter. I didn’t have a snowball fight because I have always hated getting hit. My first year at college there was a snowball fight between two dorms. Almost every window broke. I don’t know if anyone got hurt but I wouldn’t be surprised.
Many cultures set great value in each child of the family having godparents. Did you have godparents? Are you a godparent yourself?I did have godparents and I know my godfather was my Uncle Joe. He died when I was a toddler. I don’t know who my godmother was.
You have found a secret tunnel under your house. Where does it go?It goes to my happy place. It is the perfect temperature, no bugs, no negativity and a place where I can zone out and “talk” to my son in heaven. Only people who really love me know where to find me.
Muggle Questions (of a more philosophical bent this week):
Is intelligence or wisdom more useful? I think wisdom is more useful. If you are wise you can find intelligence but if you are only intelligent you might not never know what to do with it.
How important is play in living a healthy and fulfilling life?Paramount. Laughter heals.
Is happiness just chemicals flowing through your brain or something more?It is much more. It is chemicals that get triggered but something has to trigger them, either internally or externally. I think everyone is capable of happiness but they have to be willing. I also think some people push it away and prefer to be miserable.
GRATITUDE SECTION (Always optional)
I am grateful that my stepmother is home from the hospital and alive. I am grateful for the time I get to spend with my dad.
Feel free to share some photos, an image, a meme, a story or incident or a poem that helps you feel grateful.