Share your world: 11/21/22

Welcome to Share your World which Di is going to continue to host in Melanie’s memory as Di knows how much pleasure she got from writing these posts.
She was very popular and very sadly missed.

Here are my questions for this week:

1. As a child, did you prefer to watch TV, play games outside on a nice day, or read? We were always outside or playing somewhere. I don’t even really remember having a television until later, although I know we did have a black and white one. We used to ride bikes, make paths in the woods, and play on jungle gyms/tire swings…We also used to play “restaurant” and set up the basement like a restaurant. I remember one year we sat and colored hundreds of the white “s” shaped packing peanuts and made them into different foods. I remember one was shrimp! At one of our friends we used to play store and take out all the canned foods and boxed foods and make a store. Her parents probably loved trying to find stuff after we played that! 😅

2. What would you rather do now, read a book, watch a movie at home, dine out with friends, or go down the pub? If those were my only options I would probably read a book. Next I would watch some television show that is completely ridiculous like “90-Day Fiance”. I like going out but don’t like having to actually get in the car and go somewhere.

3. Are you fashion conscious? Nope. I know there are things I shouldn’t wear and for the most part know how to dress appropriately if it is necessary but I like my clothes and I feel like my own person when I wear what makes me happy!

4. Do you wear slippers, clogs or go barefoot indoors? I almost always have socks on. Sometimes bare feet depending on the time of day. Before and after bed I have bare feet.

Gratitude:

I am so thankful for having a roof over my head and food in my belly,.

Share Your World improvised: Just in Case

Di is stepping in for Melanie this week…Technology is not always everyones’ friend! https://pensitivity101.wordpress.com/2022/10/17/share-your-world-improvised-just-in-case/

1.  When you go food shopping, do you go with a list or amble down the aisles putting things in your basket or cart that you fancy or think you need? I am happier when I have a list and can get in and out. I also like when I wander and see something that perhaps I haven’t made in a long time and grab that. Usually, I buy more than we need and not what we should be buying. It is so hard because produce is so expensive and spoils so fast. But if I buy just enough for one meal I am shopping more frequently, subsequently buying way more than I would or should have. It’s sort of a lose-lose. I wish there were more fresh markets around!

2.  When the temperatures drop for the colder months, is there a specific date you put the heating on or do you flick the switch when you start to feel cold? Now in the south I don’t have the same problem but when I was in Connecticut I tried my hardest not to turn on any heat until at least November 1st. That didn’t always work. If the temperature in the house goes below 67 F I think it is getting too chilly for indoors.

3. Keeping with the cold theme, do you prefer a hot water bottle or an electric blanket at night? I never understood about the hot water bottle and my mother always said that electric blankets were too dangerous.

4.  How do you feel about log burners? Do you think they are messy or cosy? If a log burner is like a wood stove then they are great even though they are a mess. The issue I have with them now, or at least the thought of having one, is the cost of wood, energy to stack it, carry it in, and ….snakes and bugs in the wood.

Gratitude:
When was the last time you laughed out loud? I feel it is almost sadly pathetic that I have to rack my brain to try and remember a time! I do know that I was telling David a story about my daughter the other day and I was hysterical…then again, I can’t remember what it was about. Ugh….

Thanks for hosting Di!

Share Your World 2022: 10 October

Melanie hosts the weekly sharing session: https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.wordpress.com/2022/10/10/share-your-world-10-10-2022/
As always the questions are thought-provoking and bring forth feelings and questions that may otherwise lay dormant under the facade we call life.

QUESTIONS

  • Can we really know everything? absolutely not!
  • Where were people before they were born? nowhere, they didn’t exist
  • Does the Law of Attraction exist?  (Law of Attraction as I understand it) is a school of thought where positive thinking brings about good changes.  Some say it’s made them wealthy.  Others say it improves their health or their outlook on life) I think to an extent this is true. When you are overly negative you seem to see the negative things around you where as when you are positive you are able to see the beauty and good things in life. I don’t think if is a proven theory. I am the type of person who tries to stay positive and look at the good side of things but I have had some real crap to deal with over the last five years let’s say, and I don’t think it was to any fault of my own or brought on by my own negativity. Besides the human loss I have endured I have also lost my career. Did I want to stop teaching? No, but life threw me in different directions and now it isn’t a possibility unless other circumstances decide to change. I think I am a good person and I try to do the right thing and help others but do I have money that shows this? Absolutely not. I am not saying I don’t have what I need but if the Law of Attraction were definite I feel like I would have more abundance of things that I wish for than what I really have. One of my biggest desires in life is to travel. It isn’t to gain anything other than the experience of what other peoples’ lives hold.
  • Do we love ourselves more in the virtual world and less in the real world?  If so, why?   If nay, why? I do, I think. If I look at myself from an outsider’s point of view, let’s say the virtual world, I see myself differently than when I look in the mirror and my insecurities.

GRATITUDE SECTION

Are you happy? I try to be, really, really try hard. I. guess I am mostly. I am definitely thankful for all I have and I don’t ever want to take it for granted but am I happy? I guess it depends on how happy and sad you can be at the same time to still say you are one or the other.

Share Your World: 10/03/2022

Join in on Melanie’s site: https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.wordpress.com/2022/10/03/share-your-world-10-3-2022/

Favourite horror or Halloween-themed song?  Or a song you rarely hear except around a holiday. Definitely Thriller by Michael Jackson and I enjoy it so much more if I have the video to go with it! https://youtu.be/sOnqjkJTMaA

Do you ever see figures in your peripheral vision? No, only my guardian angel once in a while

Which urban legend scares you the most? (most countries have such stories – share yours if you would like to) I tend to not really believe in urban legends as “real” just because I’ve never been in a situation to “prove” one true.

You’re home alone but you hear footsteps in your house, what do you do? Stand frozen to my spot for a minute to think. Look for the most deadly object within reach. Wait to hear if they come closer. Venture out if there are no more noises.

What is your favourite season? It used to be fall/autumn until there was a certain spider in CT that was very active when the temperatures went down. Winter might be mine now that I live in FL. I don’t like snow, wet leaves have slugs, sticky summer days have horses flies and mosquitos. Spring could be up there on the top of the list I suppose!

Share Your World

This week Di is hosting Share Your World: https://pensitivity101.wordpress.com/2022/08/15/share-your-world-15th-august/

1. Do you prefer to live in a single story property like a bungalow, a high rise apartment, or a house? The house we live in now is supposedly considered a bungalow. I am not really sure what the difference is. Until this question I never thought to look. I like living in a detached building. When I was living in a condo last year I was really miserable because there was no where to sit without people walking by all the time. Also, in the condo we were in you were not allowed to have chairs out on the main walkways so I always felt like that kept people, like my father, very isolated. He would have been happy if he could sit and chat to whoever came by.

2. If you won a large amount of money on the lottery, would you want publicity or keep things quiet and low key? Definitely on the down low. I don’t know if I would want to tell anyone but David and Lindsay. My dad wouldn’t understand and I guess a few friends would find out, I would probably be tempted to share the good news. But as they say, “if you don’t play, you don’t win” and I don’t play.

3. How do you like your eggs? (No, this is not a trick question) Over medium so that the yolk is runny but the whites are not. Like Fandango https://fivedotoh.com/2022/08/15/share-your-world-08-15-2022/ I like the egg in the bread, especially when the bread is nice and buttery. If I do an omelet my most recent “like” is sausage and swiss.

4. If cars were no longer available, what would be your choice of transport? Hard to say because of where I live. An ebike would probably end up being the winner because buses aren’t prevalent near me. To be totally honest I would love a helicopter.

Gratitude:
Our aim is to make at least one person smile every day.
Okay!

SHARE YOUR WORLD 7-25-2022

Melanie is the host of Share Your World; your chance to blab on and on about what you think…Lol!

QUESTIONS

What mythical creature would improve the world most if it existed?  (If you don’t know, just choose something that you think would improve things    ) A giant flying praying mantis type thing that would eat all the bad bugs and help clean the world.

Should the death penalty be re-instated?  Why or why not? I think there are cases that it should. It costs tax payers so much money to provide for those inmates and if they are truly guilty then why should we have to pay to support them. My brother was in a high security prison years ago for armed robbery. He lived like a king…well one behind bars. He used to say that it wasn’t that bad. I know that is not the case everywhere and for everyone but think about it; three meals a day, a bed, heat, water….better than some people’s living situations. The problem is that there are those inmates that have been wrongly convicted. But there are some individuals like school shooters and those that are blatantly guilty.

Spontaneity Or Stability? Stability.

Can a dog/cat suffer? What about an ant? What about a plant? What about a bacteria cell?  Why do some humans think we’re the only species that does suffer?  Your thoughts? I think that everything can suffer but it depends on the capacity of its brain. You can see a dog and cat in pain. If an ant is in pain it doesn’t last long enough to show. Plants don’t have a brain like we do. I think anything that lives long enough to feel the pain, suffers.

GRATITUDE SECTION

What are two things that have brightened your day today? 1. Waking up knowing my daughter is in a loving, safe environment for the first time in two years. 2. Seeing my dog look up at me with so much love.

SHARE YOUR WORLD 7-18-2022

Melanie hosts Share Your World. Join in here

QUESTIONS

  1. In one sentence, how would you sum up the internet? The internet is both a world of knowledge and a garbage dump of time wasted.
  2. Is true beauty subjective or objective? (Anything objective sticks to the facts, but anything subjective has feelings) I had to look it up to make sure I was correct. I think true beauty is subjective. What I find beautiful might be meaningless to someone else and although we disagree, who is to say who is right and who is wrong. Facts are things that can be proven to be true, I think, and are true no matter who looks at it.
  3. How many chickens would it take to kill an elephant?  (like last week, I threw this one in for lightening things up a bit.  There is no ‘right or wrong ‘ answer – just have fun with it). It would depend on the size of the elephant and if chickens is in a general sense, meaning is a rooster a chicken? If a rooster is considered a chicken then yes, definitely. I had three holes poked in my leg by a rooster. If he wanted to and I had no defenses he probably would have poked my eyes out. Then unfortunately, chickens will eat their dead “family members”. I think the elephant would have to be clueless though. It’s like letting a fly bite you. Fly:Person as Chicken:Elephant
  4. If your five-year-old self suddenly found themselves inhabiting your current body, what would your five-year-old self do first?  Eat candy

GRATITUDE SECTION (AS ALWAYS, OPTIONAL)

What’s an aspect of your personality that you’re grateful for? I’m grateful that I truly feel happy for other people and care about them. I think some people have to act like they care, but they really don’t (like my sister….).

SHARE YOUR WORLD 7-11-2022

Join in here: https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.wordpress.com/2022/07/11/share-your-world-7-11-2022/

QUESTIONS

How did you spend the money from your very first job? When I was younger our middle school, which was grades 6 to 8, was close enough to walk “downtown”. On the town green we had all the “regular” stuff like the library and churches, but there were also a row of shops on one side. There was a single shop that had candy you could buy and a lot of it was penny candy. That is where it all went……

Would You Rather Look Like A Potato, Or Feel Like A Potato?  (Note.  I have no idea why they used the word “potato”, but just went with it.  Answer any way you like, this question is purely for fun) I think I would rather feel like a potato. They seem like they would be laid back, not motivated to do much, easy-going, that is if we are personifying them. If you mean just the outside, then I would say I would rather look like a potato….smooth, brown skin, very few blemishes after they are washed.

What were the best pair of shoes you have owned? I sort of have a shoe-fettish so this is hard because I have probably owned thousands of shoes in my lifetime. One pair that I wore until they squeaked and couldn’t be fixed (I didn’t even know cobblers existed) were my Mudd loafers. They were black and had a huge chunky heal. The heal was probably 1.5 inches, maybe 2, but they were just so comfortable and I thought they looked good with everything. I guess it would all depend on what part of my life we are talking about….I also loved my Docksiders, when they were made with a square toe. I can’t find those anymore. By best do you mean fitting or looking? Lol.

Besides war and diplomacy, what would be the best way for countries to settle disputes? Mutual Surrender


GRATITUDE SECTION (AS ALWAYS, OPTIONAL)

In these often depressing times, how do you find the bright spots? I try to look at how lucky I am with all the things I have. I also like to remember the people who I know love me and recall times that they expressed it.

Share Your World

Melanie is the host, from Sparks From A Combustible Mind

QUESTIONS

When you were a kid, did you eat the crusts on your sandwich or not? I don’t totally remember but I believe we did unless mom cut them off. We were told that it was just part of the bread. I can sort of recall eating all the bread part to the crust. I used to cut the crusts off for my kids because it almost seemed like that made an opening to eat the sandwich.

Are you a fan of musicals—why or why not? Yes, and no. I enjoy them and when I have seen them they have been wonderful but I can’t even remember the last time I saw one. I do remember going to Phantom of the Opera when my kids were little but I also remember how hot it was and that I was falling asleep the whole time.

Is it difficult to do what you do? (for a living, hobby etc.).  If you’re retired, what you ‘did’ previously for a job can be substituted. Teaching, especially Special Education, can be very hard. I always had the kids with social/emotional issues so that made it harder. I wouldn’t trade those years for anything though. Building my miniatures is not as much difficult as it is labor intensive. Putting all the tiny stuff together takes time. I love every minute of it. Making pottery can be very difficult but it seems to depend on the state of mind I am in. When I am more relaxed throwing pottery on a wheel turns into beautiful bowls. When I am super stressed out, hand-building a small animal or object can seem impossible.

What’s the best concert you’ve ever been to?  (Doesn’t have to be a rock concert either). From what I recall I think my favorites were Pink Floyd and Tom Petty (separate shows).

GRATITUDE SECTION

Looking back over your life, what is one thing you’re grateful for?  One thing you really regret?
I am so grateful for my life with my husband and kids. I knew Bob longer than I knew my own mother! Then my kids…I don’t know if I would do it again, if given the option, but I don’t regret them one bit and love them more than life. One thing I really regret was the time my sister, whom does not like me one bit, told me that my son was growing pot in his closet. I went in and sure enough, he had the closet blacked out and was running lights and all that. I recall wondering why my electric bill was so high. So I went back and called her and told her I told him to get rid of it, get it out of my house. She got back to me and told me I was crazy! She told me to go in there and get rid of everything NOW! So I did. Joey ended up killing all the plants in my garden as revenge. Yes, it was screwed up that he was growing pot in my house and yes it was completely screwed up that he killed my plants (just because I killed his) but the thing I didn’t even stop to hear him say was that he was so proud of all the chemistry he had figured out to grow this beautiful plant. All his time and effort and he wasn’t even given the chance to get it out of my house, I just demolished it all. Why do I regret this? Because my son saw black and white, there was no gray. He saw what he did as a huge accomplishment and I totally wrecked it because my sister told me it was what I was supposed to do. I know my logic may be screwed up too and it isn’t just because my son died. I regretted it when he was alive. I just never told him how much I regretted it. It wasn’t the “right” thing to do as a parent – tell your kid you regret your own actions. And then after killing my plants, I was told that it was completely “fucked up” and that I should be so mad. I wasn’t. Maybe if people knew Joey they would have understood why I felt the way I did and why I wish I had given him the chance to get it out of my house in his own way, rather than destroy it. My therapist always told me I should really think about the fact that “why did he think it was okay to grow it in my house”. That makes more sense to me. I’m sure everyone has their own ideas but I’m the one that lives with it.

By the way, there are so many smaller instances of me listening to my sister that I regret and now that she has openly told me how much she doesn’t like me, the regret feels that much worse. But, those are all in the past……

Share Your World — 04/25/2022

Melanie is the host of Share Your World: https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.wordpress.com/2022/04/25/share-your-world-and-be-kind-to-the-earth-4-25-2022/

QUESTIONS

In your opinion, how are we affecting our planet? I think many of us are ruining it when we don’t need to be. I don’t think it is all optional though. For example, we are getting our kitchen redone (even though I just fired the contractor!). Each cabinet came with cardboard on top, on bottom, around the sides…The one around the sides is line with plastic so I roll it and use it for drop clothes when I paint, but the rest I just break down and put out for the town guys to get. I don’t even know if it is recycled or put in the trash! Anyhow, I understand that it is shipped that way to avoid damage but imagine if a truck just came and dropped off the cabinets? I mean in the end the company might break even when they don’t have to pay for the production and use of all that cardboard. Another huge example, that makes me so angry, is junk mail. In the “junk mail” category I regrettably include mail from charitable sponsors. I mean, if the Disable Vets of America stopped sending me envelopes, with the postage, and then calendars and labels, book marks, etc. wouldn’t they have more money for the cause? They really even aren’t that bad. My father who has Alzheimer’s is still receiving mailing labels for his old address from a few organizations. Now, firstly, when I started living with him I sent each one back with a note saying he had Alzheimers so take him off the mailing list. Secondly, it’s his old address! My stepmother who has now been gone for over a year is still getting mailing labels and other various gifts even though I sent all of them back for a while with the word DECEASED written on the front. That is so much paper and I haven’t even gotten to the advertisements or the local flyers for supermarkets. Must I go on? Don’t get me going on packaging and plastics…Or food containers…

What solutions would you offer to stem the multiple problems we face vis a vis the destruction of our planet home? I think the best thing is to try and reuse as much as possible. I know there is not always an option. Then you have the plastics that they say if you reuse them there are chemicals that go into whatever you put in them. I also think we need to come up with more efficient ways of recycling. I have learned that most of our recycling has always gone to China. According to my source, China recycles more because they don’t have the EPA standards on air emissions like the US. I don’t know if this is true or not, and I don’t care to have an argument about it, but with what is going on in our world, China isn’t taking our products anymore. One way that I think is a really good idea is reusing the land that is used for landfills as public properties that don’t rely on ground water. For example, football fields and stadiums. Pipe in the water for drinking but that is a lot of surface area that can be saved and used more affectively. Disclaimer: these are only my ideas and not backed by any research. I’m just saying these things ’cause I think of them!

Do you think it’s already too late and we could just do exactly as we’re doing now and things would turn out the very same? I don’t think it is ever too late overall. I mean, yes we have animals that are extinct as well as plants and so on, but many of them can be saved. Also, now that we have the means, take DNA of things in danger, just in case. The saddest part of all this is the people who rely on things like poaching to survive. I do NOT agree with poaching and I DO believe it should be illegal but how do you stop the people from selling Ivory if that is the only way they make their money? Maybe we need more of an educational program for the world, and not just the advanced countries.

Do you participate in things like “Arbor Day” (a U.S. Holiday dedicated to planting new trees) or Earth Day or Earth Month? I don’t because for a few reasons. First, I really never remember about it until it is here or gone and then I think it is too late. Second, I haven’t always had a place to plant a new tree. I also don’t cut down any trees so that sort of counts, I think.

Is any of it important in the ‘Big Picture’? Yes, of course! If we don’t all join together to change some of the things affecting the earth, then we might as well just keep hoping and holding off the inevitable. You can’t change just some of it. Yes, some is better than nothing, but if we all don’t care the same it won’t be the same. I think we have just gotten so advanced that people care about different things. Maybe with technology some of the products we used to buy will decrease and that might help. I know that some things are necessary and some things are produced for good reason. It is the mindless stuff, like all the junk mail, that aggravates me the most.

GRATITUDE SECTION

What can you personally do to participate in the “Clean Earth” movement? I don’t litter and I pick up my dog poop. Dog poop doesn’t necessarily hurt the earth, but it hurts people’s shoes and livelihoods. I also use rainwater and water from the condenser, to cut down on fresh water use. I try to limit the amount of plastic I buy, especially if it is the kind that cannot be recycled.

I do have an idea, that is taken off of another that is already done, but…take all those plastic bottles that are littering the worlds’ waters and fill them with sand from areas that need to be cleared. Use them to build homes for either the homeless or for those living in areas of such poverty. Also, teach people in disadvantaged countries more ways to help themselves. I don’t think there are any immediate things, per say, but I think every bit will help.