What’s the hardest decision you’ve ever had to make? What made the decision so difficult?
https://fivedotoh.com/2022/12/07/fandangos-provocative-question-193/
Funny how you can draw a blank and have to really think hard to think about a decision you have made in the past. Anyhow…
One of the hardest decisions I have ever had to make was in trying to recover a relationship with my sister. I know why she has some hurt feelings and I was willing to talk to her about it and work through it but she said there was no problem. She has hurt me in so many ways and in her continued attitude that I am imagining that we have a problem. She says it is just that she has nothing to talk to me about and really doesn’t want any sort of relationship. In my head I always kept trying to figure out how to “fix” this, I missed having my sister to call and visit. But to maintain my own health I had to make the decision to stop trying and just accept that we no longer have a relationship. Sad to say but I am the only child out of 5 kids, and I know it isn’t me! That might sound obnoxious but I know what kind of person I am and I am NOT cruel, uncaring, or disrespectful to anyone!
This was so hard to finally decide to stop trying because not only is she family but she is one of the only people left in my life that knew Bob (my first husband) and Joey (my son). I wish I had someone to reminisce with about these two men I lost way too soon. I also wish I could share my life with her now, but she doesn’t like David and said she never will.
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My heart is with you and I know how it must hurt but she has made her choices, you didn’t make her be this way. I think you are a brave soul answering this question.
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Brave indeed…At least I know she has no interest in my blogging!
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This is indeed sad. But as I see it, it’s her loss not yours as you were willing to bridge the gap
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It’s really tough to estrange yourself from a sibling or close family member.
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I’m so sorry. That is super sad 😢
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It was for me, my sister and my father. One was an addict, the other an abuser. I feel like I never really HAD a sister.
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I look back and see that there was much less happiness on my end the whole time.
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It took me a long time to realize it was time to give up. It would have been nice to have a functional family, but I don’t know many people who were that lucky. A few, not a lot.
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Yes and behind all the function is dysfunction!
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Maybe dysfunctional is really function and “normal” is a myth.
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With each passing day that seems to make more sense! 🤪
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I have a similar problem with my sister. We get on brilliantly now…………… we live 300 miles away and she never contacts me.
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perfect!
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I was the same with my son. I had to make the decision to step back and not contact him, for every time I spoke to him I got so upset and was having suicidal feelings
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Deb, that is how I am and you know what she has done in the past when I have tried to tell her how I feel? She laughs…
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