How are you changing the world? How are you making the world a better place?
There is so much sadness in the world, so many bad things happening to good people. At times it seems like humanity is out of control. I think we all need to have a common ground to stand on and show that no matter who you are, where you come from, where you plan on going, it doesn’t have to be thrown at people nor kept from people. We all just need to let people be who they are and who they want to be. This is what I try to instill in people I know and meet, the little way I might be changing the world.
It is so hard to think of memories of my dad when I think of who he was and who he is now. He was a businessman who owned an Insurance Company and Real Estate Broker. He loved gardening the most. As a kid whenever something needed to be done, he didn’t call anyone, he did it himself. He built our decks, put up our swimming pool, built playhouses in the woods…One thing I remember is when I used to go in on Saturday mornings with my father, to his office, to help do the filing and cleaning. We would leave by 7:30 or so and I was always so hung over! Every week we stopped at the diner for breakfast. Some weeks it was a dry bagel or blueberry muffin, but I always tried to gag something down! 😂
Today may be one of the memories I come to cherish the most. Today, David and I brought donuts to the memory care unit to celebrate Father’s Day. We talked a lot and with questions came tears and memories that he still has. My mom, my son, my late husband, his late “wife”, where he is going to be buried… But in the end we had plenty of smiles.
You only see my color not my insides, not my brain I pray that you will listen but my praying is in vain I’m worth more than you give me I’m worth more than you get I’m just another person How could you forget? When God put me before him I was a person with a heart But now that he’s not here I’ve had to find a place to start For God is with us always And it was in his plan To make us all remember It’s not the color, it’s the man.
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Probably not as much as I should be. On New Years Day my wallet was stolen. I immediately called all the credit cards and all that. I know I had some other info in there but I think it would be useless to the local wallet-thief. I’m hoping it is all in the garbage dump, even though I wish it had just been mailed back to me or something…bygones.
Online I try to keep my passwords “tricky”. I mean most of them are things that unless you were in my brain there is really no way for you to figure it out. Any social media is a risk in and of itself so I’m bad there too. I sell on Etsy so a lot of my information is public.
Overall, I try to do what I can. I’m not a fanatic nor do I give information easily…that is what I like to hope.
He seemed to sip his wine with grace gazing at that beautiful face Wondering how fate could work this way Thinking that she could make his day Courage would be just what he needs Perhaps the liquor would plant those seeds For now he’d sip and take in her beauty Hoping someday he would be her cutie.
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What are your thoughts about Valentine’s Day?
I remember as a kid loving to write everyone’s names on the valentines for school and then taking all mine home to read them. They were all the same, I think it was just to see “how many people liked me” or something. I mean the kids were supposed to give one to every classmate. Sort of pointless.
When my kids were little they weren’t too excited about them but made a fuss about buying the ones that had candy with them. I remember always being a little cheap about it but I think they were happy.
As an adult I always liked to hear “Happy Valentine’s Day” but always felt bad that Bob, my late husband, would want to spend three times the amount on a bunch of roses just because it was the “right thing to do”. I mean he meant well, I know that, but I always felt a little guilty because the price was only high for that one day.
Last year, David proposed the day before Valentine’s Day so we went shopping for wedding rings on Valentine’s Day. Spending the day together is enough for me.
I bought my dad a bunch of stuff for Valentine’s Day…I made a bucket with all these tinsley things, for his apartment. I also gave him a rose that lights up. The rose he put on his walker. He is like a little kid now so I know he loves getting the heart embellished stuff.
I used to buy my kids a gift, I don’t remember if I did every year or not and when I stopped or whatever…The day is really just a commercialized holiday like Halloween. I am thankful if I get something but certainly don’t expect it and don’t want anyone to spend extra just because there is a heart on it.
I’ve often been told that I wear these red specs my rose colored glasses tied tight ’round my neck but I don’t see it that way not that way at all I call it positivity Helping you not to fall. But sometimes it comes back to bite me real hard ’cause I ignored the true facts like a red joker card. And so I must take my glasses off to be clear that the choices I make are the ones I won’t fear. Now I know what you’re thinking old habits won’t change but I really will try to make my mind rearrange. I’ll see the true facts as they truly are shown not making them rosy making all options known. I’ll try to see clearly try to make a smart choice and stick so completely proud that it’s really my voice.
What are some of the things that people do that make you feel uncomfortable?
I think one of the biggest things is fight in public. I don’t mean fist fight, I mean full out arguing. Everyone is going to disagree in their lives but screaming back and forth is not something that is going to help. I especially dislike, almost hate, when parents yell at their kids to “be quiet” in a store. First of all, you are yelling which is not quiet and there are other ways to quiet kids down. Working with behavioral issues I have found that whispering to kids is one of the best ways to get them to lower their voices. They want to hear what grown-ups have to say and if they are screaming and you are whispering they have to stop to hear you. I also think that sometimes a grown-up just needs to listen one time to what the kid is saying and put an end to whatever is being yelled about. For example, I have heard kids screaming, crying, yelling, whatever, that they want something. The parent ignores the behavior thinking it will help it to stop. Well, the intensity is going to grow until the child feels like he/she is being heard and it is acknowledged. I think that is normal behavior. If they continue and it becomes a true behavior, do the old trick and walk out of the store without buying a thing; that almost always works!