Fandango’s Provocative Question

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In the context of blogging and writing, what do you think is more important: what you say or how you say it?

I think it is a little of both. I have found that as I am looking through my feed and clicking here and there, there are some sites that I instantly leave for various reasons. One is chaos. If I can’t navigate your site to at least find something that was written within the last week or so (if you blog that often, lets say even a month or two) then great, but if I have go through links dating back to 2019 you’ve lost me. Second is blog name. It isn’t necessarily what it is or how it was chosen, I guess it is more on tact. For example, the other day I was perusing WP and I came across a blog with the name something like: People Abused by Priests. Now, I get it. I totally get it and I am not trying to minimize the trauma, the need for connection, the need to speak, but….in my opinion you won’t have anyone except those who are also terribly traumatized and looking for help. Sometimes it is best to get a wider audience where someone might have some perspective that doesn’t come from PTSD or trauma. I don’t know that is my opinion only.

As far as how things are said, I agree with many other bloggers that if there are spelling errors throughout or mistakes that “should” be found with a quick re-read then I get sort of uninterested in reading further.

Finally, if your post is so long that I have to scroll a whole bunch of times and still can’t find the bottom, you lost me.

Fandango’s Provocative Question #137

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Have you ever been to a clothing-optional (nude) venue, such as a beach, resort, club, party, etc? If so, what did you think of the experience? Would you do it again? If not, would you ever consider going to a clothing-optional gathering? Why or why not?

I have never been to a place such as this and I am not sure I ever would go. The thing is this, if you want to walk around nude or swim or whatever that is fine but I really don’t feel like hanging out playing cards naked, for instance, just to say I play cards naked. Also, I really don’t see the point. Yes, so you are free from judgement of superficial belongings but going just to be naked seems like it is, I don’t know…I don’t want to sit in a restaurant after someone’s bare ass has just sat in a chair and if you are going to walk around with a towel to cover yourself why not just wear clothes? I guess it just seems pointless to me to go to a party, take off your clothes, and then stand around doing the same thing you would be doing at a regular party.

Fandango’s Provocative Question #134

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What are your primary sources for news these days? Are you confident that your sources present the news accurately, fairly, and without bias? Or have you given up trying to keep up with the news anymore?

I gave up before even starting! I used to watch the news, growing up, because my dad had it on. Then I never watched it…At some point I think my late husband used to come home and turn on the local news, so I would watch that. Now, whenever David has it on I watch and listen but I know there aren’t many times that I myself have turned the news on. I get tired of hearing the same thing over and over. The programs are so short that they really just seem to give the same information over and over. I admit I have watched it for the weather. Even they’ve been wrong so many times!

Fandango’s Provocative Question #121

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What three wishes would you ask the genie to grant you?

  1. I wish that I could live at least 75% of my days without any pain of any kind.
  2. I wish that I could help everyone that needs it, find a way to be happy and happy with themselves.
  3. I wish that I could have a credit card so that when I really want something, I don’t have to think twice about getting it because I never get the statement in the mail!

Fandango’s Provocative Question #71

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How old are you* and how old do you feel — older or younger than your actual chronological age? Do you generally act your age? And what does “acting your age” mean to you?

I am 49 but feel like I just graduated from high school. I don’t feel old enough to have to make many of the decisions I have had to make in life. On the contrary, I am happy being home doing crafty stuff or reading. I can I am also a “repurposer” so I hate throwing things away that I might be able to use again some day.

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Fandango’s Provocative Question #92

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Do you blog anonymously? Why or why not?

I had thought about this not only when starting my blog but also throughout this whole time of being an active blogger. I do not blog anonymously. I guess I don’t because when I started this whole blogging experience it was around losing my husband and my son. I didn’t really know what blogging was beyond “telling your story”. As time went on, I started enjoying all of the challenges and different forms of writing. I think what I write would not insult anyone, so why change now.

On the subject of anonymity, I don’t always tell readers where in the US I live. I guess if someone reads enough of my posts they probably know. Unfortunately, with Google and whoever knows what else, anyone could drive up to my door and I would never know how they found me.

I respect whatever anyone chooses but I do have to admit, I am more curious than a cat and it kills me a little (just joking, but sort of) to not know who people really are.

Fandango’s provocative Question

If you could choose anyone, past or present, and walk that proverbial mile in his or her shoes, who would you choose, and why would you choose that person? https://fivedotoh.com/2020/05/20/fandangos-provocative-question-70/

This is going to sound so cliche but Mother Teresa.

I love the work that she did but mostly I love that everywhere she went everyone knew she was there to do good. No matter where she went she gave a good feeling. On top of that she traveled to so many places!

If I could go back and rewalk in my own shoes (please don’t take into consideration my children or late husband) I would have joined something like the Peace Corps and traveled to help people. There are supposedly missions that anyone can still participate in but how do you do it now? I don’t worry so much about my daughter because she would travel to see me wherever I went, but I couldn’t leave my dad or Laurette. Laurette too would travel with me; her own grandmother traveled well into her 90’s. My dad hates flying and now with the dementia if he is away from home and not somewhere familiar (like Publix or Walgreens) he starts to panic.

That’s my story and I’m stickin’ to it.

Fandango’s Provocative Question #66

Do you believe in giving people second chances? If so, why? If not, why not? https://fivedotoh.com/

I think everyone deserves a second chance but that doesn’t mean they have to take it! People screw up in life and sometimes just do dumb things. If they feel badly about what they did, they will show remorse. If they don’t care one way or another, then why should I? It is almost like saying thank you. Thank you for what? Forcing youngsters to say thank you means nothing unless they know what they are thankful for. Sometimes you’ll get a little one that says they are not thankful! Haha, so cute!

Anyhow, I don’t believe that coercion or other means of forcing someone are giving a second chance. I think if that is the case then we need to reexamine our needs. Maybe it is us that wants the second chance. Maybe we want better for someone else. Well, you can’t want it more than they do!

Overall, if they want it, I’d give a second chance, but I’m not begging anyone to let me give them a second chance.