From my desk: August 5, 2020

The last few days have been tough because of Storm Isaias. There has been wind and power outages, worry about food going bad.

I have spent the last three days getting my sister addicted to 90 Day Fiance. I was out in the sun, at the pool, and at the beach. I take the ferry home tomorrow.

I am so tired today. Not being in my own bed means not sleeping as good as I can. I tell you this because I haven’t slept well. I will be back to my old self tomorrow I hope.

Thank you for following and have a peaceful evening.

My son’s story: Joseph Teo (11/10/99-07/06/2019)

My Son’s story 

Joey was born on November 10th, 1999. He was a big baby and so sweet from the minute he entered the world. His full name was Joseph Teo. We were going to name him Cassius (Cachous – I cannot remember the spelling) after his father’s grandfather. I wanted something a bit more modern, so we decided on Joseph. His middle name, Teo, was short for Teofil, Bob’s other grandfather. When Joey was about four or five, he told us he wanted to change his middle name to Teofil,  not our shortened version. He was always a character.  

Joey was brilliant! I am not just saying that because he was my son, he really was. At nine months old I found him standing on the dining room table calling out to me to see how high he had climbed. Arms out, screaming “Ma, Ma”! I tried so carefully to not get over excited and startle him, I did not want him to fall. He was a November birthday so we decided we would wait to start him in Kindergarten until he was turning six, what my parents did with me. It was in Nursery School that we realized we had made a mistake. That winter we started him in Kindergarten, with the assumption he would repeat because he had missed so much. By second grade he was terribly bored and asked if he could be in a different grade. We tried but the school refused to allow it. He was in groups like “Future Problem Solvers” and excelled. 

We moved to a new house and although he was still the same kid things were not as good for him. He was bullied starting in elementary school. He was bullied because he loved to learn. He loved making things and learning things, not running around playing shooting games or farting like little boys do! One time in maybe third grade he was being teased because he was dunking his Oreo in milk during after-school care. Of course, he was taught that this was the proper way to eat an Oreo! The kid would not stop, and I guess after a few comments Joey whipped his soggy Oreo at the kid and watched it slide down his face and neck. Good for Joey!  

In all academics he excelled, with Language Arts being his biggest struggle, since it is so subjective. He was a math kid, black and white, formulas… Bullying continued in Middle school but because it was mostly teasing from “friends” it was never taken seriously. There are a lot of painful memories about this time of his life that currently I am not ready to discuss.  

Anyhow, he went on to high school and did not do well in a traditional classroom. He was anxious and had depression.  I tried to help him in any way possible. He tried to take his own life at least once, if not more. 

Joey went to three different high schools before finding the perfect fit. By that time, he had to repeat his Junior year since he had missed a lot of it and needed the credits.  Although he always maintained almost perfect A’s in all classes his school did not offer credit based on absences. He went to his new school, which was a magnet school situated on the campus of a community college.  Upon entering he tested out of all high school courses so had to start college classes. He was earning college credit along with his high school diploma. He excelled.  

He took his SATs and got 800 on the math. A perfect score! At his memorial service, the college professor who taught a math class called Differentials said that Joey taught her a few things! He applied to a few colleges for Mechanical Engineering and although his most desired was Georgia Tech, he was declined being a five-year high schooler! He applied on his own and got into Florida Institute of Technology. He was really on a new trajectory. He graduated with high honors in June of 2019. At this time his father had been dead only a year. 

After his father had died in June 2018 from a medical complication, Joey was the man of the house. When I met David, who I had no intention of falling in love with but did anyways, we had some tension. He was staying with a friend of his shortly after graduating high school. He was scheduled to leave in August. After his dad died, Joey saved up enough money to buy himself an $8000 motorcycle in cash.  He took all the classes, got his license, and insurance. Some people blame me, I believe, because I did not forbid him from having a motorcycle. He was 18 and there was really nothing I could do. So, I supported him and begged him to be safe.  

He was working as a line cook that July. He was on his way home from work on a Tuesday night. He hit a truck pulling out of a side road and died at the scene. There is obviously more to this chain of events but again too painful to talk about right now.  That was one year and five days ago.  

I lost my son. My daughter lost her brother. He had so many friends, he did not even know it! I am and never will be whole again. I thank God I have my daughter and David.  

From my desk: June 29, 2020

Well, tomorrow I begin my two day journey back up north. I will have to quarantine myself until I get retested for COVID since I am now in one of the target states. That is fine with me, I have a lot to do around the house as I really want to try and get it on the market again.

I hate to say goodbye to my dad even though I am ready to go home. Right now he lives so far away that I get nervous that I won’t see him again. Besides the dementia he is healthy as a 20 year old so I probably worry more than I should!

In the next two days please stop by and say hello! I hate when I can’t get on here and post a lot and then see no one has stopped by! I’m sort of a cry baby like that.

Please try to stay healthy no matter where you are on this planet! This virus is so pushy and just doesn’t want to go away!

Peace to you all and I look forward to getting home and resuming my regular “work day” of writing and reading on here!

From my desk: 06/21/2020

So I started on the road at 9:00 am this morning. I am finally climbing into bed in North Carolina, after showering and the such. It was a nice ride and I got about 1.5 hours further than I usually do when I drive to Florida because there wasn’t much traffic…on my side of the highway!

I was so excited and bummed at the same time today. Waze, which is what I was using for my directions, had me go through Washington DC instead of around it. I was pretty far from it but I got a shot of the Washington Monument.

Anyhow, I had to shut my camera off so that I could see the directions and next thing you know, I am driving practically right past the Washington Monument, then past the Jefferson Memorial (I could see right through it and I saw Jefferson sitting there), and then……..get this…….The Pentagon! Where was my GoPro? In the trunk! I was so mad. Then to make matters worse, a few minutes later I’m passing Quantico! Yesterday when I was packing I said to myself to put the GoPro in the front with me but this morning I forgot. I may try to go back that way on my drive home!

Besides that, driving into New Jersey I saw green trees and grass! That is amazing because it is always so barren looking to me, but without all the pollution I think it is healing.

I did have to stop for a nap in Maryland, which took about an hour off my ride, so I was making really good time and wasn’t speeding, well mostly not speeding.

Goodnight and I will update my travels tomorrow evening when I arrive in Palm Coast Florida to see a dear friend.

Peace to you all and stay safe and healthy!

From my desk: april 15, 2020

I have seen a lot of blogs talking about healthy eating since many of us are packing on the pounds being stuck home. I used to health coach for a company and although I don’t agree with their ideas, since it is all processed and packaged, I did love many of the lean recipes. One of the very best sites is called Sandy’s Kitchen Adventures. Try the cauliflower crust pizza! I typically don’t like cauliflower but this is awesome and very healthy! Let me know what you try!

In Willimantic, CT there is a “famous” bridge called the Frog Bridge.
Today, on my one day out for errands I noticed that the frogs are wearing masks!

Not that many will care but since all the shipping delays I don’t have a miniature to work on. So sad. But I spent yesterday drawing. I found this one woman who has youtube videos on how to draw things and I found her very easy to follow and complete the drawings! RapidFireArt
If you follow this artist, Harriet Muller she is really good too.
There is one called How2DrawAnimals but his videos are very fast and not as descriptive of what to do.
I suggest RapidFireArt: How to draw a realistic eye

David’s car got hit last week. Luckily no one was hurt at all but the insurance company totalled out his car based on the amount of damage and the year, etc. So we have been car shopping. David would really like a Toyota FJ Cruiser so we have been looking at those. We drove two and each handled differently, so it is important to try them out. Toyota doesn’t make the FJ anymore, although they say they will again soon, so all of the FJs on the market are used.

Well, I am off to read blogs and then do one of the drawing lessons. Today it was in the 60’s which is really encouraging, especially when my yard hasn’t really been tended to in over a year and a half.

Peace to you all! Thanks for following!