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From my desk: 04/02/2025

My dad is not doing well. We have called in Hospice to help make him comfortable. Thank you for all your prayers and well wishes and for those to come. At 92 he is tired and I will miss him a lot!

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  1. I am sorry to read about your dad. I do so understand. My husband age 99 passed away a little more than a week ago. He had dementia and finally had hospice care in our home. It is not easy. He had fallen and was in pain and to relieve that pain was important. I did post about him in my blog and sharing does help. I have help of course from my children and there is much to do. But I still find refuge in blogging. We don’t know what or who will help but this is a loving community and we probably follow some of the same bloggers. I see my husband’s face in the face of your father.

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    • Thank you for mentioning your loss and I’m sorry you had to go through it as well. I think my biggest problem is knowing whether my dad is in pain or not. Every nurse that comes does something different because based on the moment they might see him almost alert while others see him in this agitated state. I know he has pain, I just don’t know how much. I have been spending my days with him. My sister came once…she said she said her goodbyes…She doesn’t take into account that it is emotionally exhausting to be here all day every day. But her life and job are more important so…Ugh, thats a whole different issue. My dad has 5 kids all together. I’m the only one here. I’m just really tired.

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      • That helpless feeling is so familiar. I didn’t recognize the onset of dementia soon enough. When he would get irritated at me I was scared for my safety and of course lashed back. When I learned to gently reply it was better. Different nurses came to check but of course as you wrote …. everyone sees a different view. They wrote plenty of notes but only I/you see the complete picture. I understand TIRED with a capital T.

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      • I’m so very sorry to read this. Keep the good thoughts and times in your heart and mind. There is so much to do afterwards. I hope you are getting help with that.

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    • Thank you. Its been hard with the ups and downs. I’m sitting here waiting for Hospice to come with pain meds. The nurse that came yesterday was able to get him to take the liquid tylenol with pudding. Today I was able to pour in about half a dose but then he started choking on it. My sister said she isn’t going to come down because she is working and she already said her goodbyes. No thought abnout the emotional exhaustion of sitting here day after day by myself. Ugn, I’m trying not to complain. I knew it would be like this.

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